Facebook share
LinkedIn share
Google plus share
Twitter plus share
Give Advice
Ask For Advice
Page 2 of 3 FirstFirst 123 LastLast
Results 11 to 20 of 24

Thread: Getting mixed messages what do I do

  1. #11
    Platinum Member bluecastle's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2017
    Posts
    2,134
    Gender
    Male
    Originally Posted by katrina1980
    She got bored with it, that's all.
    Yup.

    Truth is you were both playing a game that was going to get boring fast. Yeah, it's fun to send some tawdry stuff, have some sex talk, make lofty statements about "missing" someone and being "scared of long distance." Feels real, without being real. Gets old quick. Got old for her before it got old for you. So it goes. Shrug emoji.

    What masturbation is to actual sex with an actual human being, this form of romance is to real dating.

    In fact, it's essentially masturbation—with a touch of emotional juju to spice things up, sharpen the fantasy. Think about it objectively, you know? You were just using each other to get off, far more than connecting.

    The line between this sort of "relationship" and masturbating to pornography is razor thin—and perhaps there's a lesson there. Masturbating to porn can be great, of course, but if you mistake it for actual sex (or actual feelings) you've kind of lost the plot.

    No biggie, all in all. A month or so of your life, some fun. Just remember that the world is way more fun away from screens, no matter how sizzling the sexts are.

  2. #12
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    Jun 2012
    Age
    57
    Posts
    5,906
    Gender
    Male
    Treat mixed signals as non-interest.

  3. #13
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    Jul 2016
    Posts
    8,961
    It's not even a "mixed" message though imo.

    It's a very clear message, she's moving on.

    You should as well, OP, sorry.

  4. #14
    Member
    Join Date
    Aug 2016
    Posts
    34
    So an update I texted her about this that I’m sensing that she’s not interested anymore given her lack of replies. And that it was nice getting to know her. She said that she’s sorry I feel that way and that she’s been very busy with work and prepping for her competition over the past few weeks. She agreed that she’s let me know in the future, if she is this busy. So I guess everything is fine, I was worrying for no reason.

  5.  

  6. #15
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    Jul 2016
    Posts
    8,961
    Is she still planning on visiting you, meeting you in person in three weeks?

    If not, then I'm sorry this just sounds like a huge load of you know what.

    But good luck.

  7. #16
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    Jun 2012
    Age
    57
    Posts
    5,906
    Gender
    Male
    Originally Posted by jrw
    So an update I texted her about this that I’m sensing that she’s not interested anymore given her lack of replies. And that it was nice getting to know her. She said that she’s sorry I feel that way and that she’s been very busy with work and prepping for her competition over the past few weeks. She agreed that she’s let me know in the future, if she is this busy. So I guess everything is fine, I was worrying for no reason.
    She'll let you know?? My friend you are being dumped. Someone that wants to see you will make time. Keep some dignity intact and just let this go.

  8. #17
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    Jul 2016
    Posts
    8,961
    OP, you do know when someone is interested, there is no such thing as "too busy" don't you?

    And this is just chatting on line, you've never even met in person yet!

    I will shocked, literally shocked, if you ever meet in person.

    I hope I am wrong for your sake, but from the sounds of it, you are being so played.

    If nothing else, a good learning experience though..

  9. #18
    Member
    Join Date
    Aug 2016
    Posts
    34
    Yes I asked if she would let me know if she is busy like this again in (and unable to communicate as much) so I am aware and she said yes.

  10. #19
    Member
    Join Date
    Aug 2016
    Posts
    34
    Right I get that. I even had a day where I had school and work and working out and was so overwhelmed I had no desire to text her let alone anyone else. Maybe she’s honestly just going through a lot and is genuinely busy. We’ll see what happens whether good or bad 🤷🏻♂️

  11. #20
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    May 2012
    Posts
    1,995
    I don't see the point in a ldr when you've never even met. Sexting a stranger and hoping that turns into a relationship? 2019 is weird.

    Back off a little. Try to have less expectations. Treat this as a fun sexting ldr with someone you've never met rather than trying to force it to be something else.

Page 2 of 3 FirstFirst 123 LastLast

Give Advice
Ask For Advice

Tags for this Thread

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •