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Thread: Ex reached out after 3 weeks! Is this him trying or not

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    WHy everyone using my own words against me lmao! ok I get it! I talked a big talk. Billie, how am I choosing to be a doormat, I haven't said yes to a relationship with him, I just said yes to accepting his helping me with my car. Those are two different things. And a booty call?? why would I put up with that if I couldn't put up with being stood up?

    I just thought he was taking the slow approach of getting me back!

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    Originally Posted by Wiseman2
    It sounds like he was with someone else making excuses about falling asleep. When that didn't work out he contacted you. Don't waste more time on this guy. Don't get caught up in someone's on/off problems or flakiness or complete lack of respect for your time and feelings. Block and delete him.
    Hey WIseman I think you are right! being completely silent for almost a month (after he eff'ed up) can only mean he had someone there to keep him busy. THanks for opening my eyes with this one. I don't have the guts to block him but I don't think I want to be romantic with him again! You guys are helping me see@>thanks I will just leave it to GOd and pray if he isn't for me to keep him away.

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    Originally Posted by Blossom314
    I know Holly :( I did move on but when he texted me a mix of emotions came flooding through.
    Why haven't you blocked him? You only dated two months, and he stood you up. Why would you waste any time on this guy? He has shown you who he is. Repeatedly.

    Get smarter in dating and people's actions. Why would it take "guts" to block?

    This is why you repeatedly choose bad people. You keep the door open when they have shown you that they are not relationship material. You need to show yourself, and others, that you respect yourself. Currently, you are not. That is on you.

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    Originally Posted by Blossom314
    To summarize the story, it was a very short relationship (approx 2 months). Even though short term, I started to really like him. Then one night he stood me up! I kept calling and texting an he was no where to be found. The very next day, the excuse was lame (said he fell asleep) so I gracefully broke up with him. I take my time very seriously and feel that we teach people how to treat us. It didnít seem to bother him when I broke up, as he simply just let it go and that was that.

    I started moving on with my life and now after 3 weeks he has reached out. First he stated he has been wanting to reach out but wasnít sure how I would react, I basically responded normal and just said hi back. Then he offered to help me fix my car. I told him sure and that I could use the help. And this was this past week. Now I havenít heard anything since. Was this a ploy to get me to talk to him or is he really interested in entering my life again? What do I do?
    He's a flake and it doesn't matter what his motives are. Your personal boundaries and sense of emotional survival should guide you to block and delete him. You know that, so just do it. Surely you know that Good people don't act like he does. (falling asleep and not calling right away once he woke up to apologize and reschedule.) He's looking to see if you are open to booty and by answering him, you told him you don't have the boundaries in place to tell him "no" to that.

    He has now shelved you for future hook ups when he has nothing else going on. You need to learn how to read a player when you come across one or you are going to end up shredding your own heart by not paying attention to actions.

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    Originally Posted by ThatwasThen
    He's a flake and it doesn't matter what his motives are. Your personal boundaries and sense of emotional survival should guide you to block and delete him. You know that, so just do it. Surely you know that Good people don't act like he does. (falling asleep and not calling right away once he woke up to apologize and reschedule.) He's looking to see if you are open to booty and by answering him, you told him you don't have the boundaries in place to tell him "no" to that.

    He has now shelved you for future hook ups when he has nothing else going on. You need to learn how to read a player when you come across one or you are going to end up shredding your own heart by not paying attention to actions.
    Spot on.....

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    Originally Posted by Blossom314
    WHy everyone using my own words against me lmao! ok I get it! I talked a big talk. Billie, how am I choosing to be a doormat, I haven't said yes to a relationship with him, I just said yes to accepting his helping me with my car. Those are two different things. And a booty call?? why would I put up with that if I couldn't put up with being stood up?

    I just thought he was taking the slow approach of getting me back!
    No one is "using" your words "against" you. Why would you view what you wrote previously as a threat or a weapon? These are things YOU wrote, so please understand that no one had any reason to believe or suspect you didn't really mean them.

    He offered to fix your car. Who knows why. One thing he DOES know for sure is that you appear eager to hear from him and to spend time with him.

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