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    Advice needed please.

    So i am going into my third year of spliting my life into a 50/50 every week. Half the week I'm home and with my wife and 1 year old. The other half I'm 2 hours away with my 2 older daughters from my ex. I had to get a home where my ex lives in order to share custody due to the fact she couldnt afford to relocate since she didnt work. So my lease is coming up on its expiration. I had court on may 9th and my ex was served court papers and she didnt show up to court.

    I saved 3 years worth of police reports of her breaking court orders. I've had the police approach her when she wouldnt contact me back on my court ordered days. She would still refuse me my time with my kids after the cop would present her the court order.

    So the judge had me wait all day in court to see if she would arrive late. As I'm the last person in court he tells me i have to reschedule and they will mail her a notice. Hes the same judge we had last time and he remembered me and the sacrifice i made to move.

    So my ex never showed up to court and i go back may 30th. So should I have my lawyer come back to court with me or should I let the judge make his own judgements? I dont know how i should feel about him making me come back.

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    You chose to move 2 hrs away from your daughters , why? Obviously you lived there with your ex and daughters and was your choice to set up home elsewhere?
    No judge will care about the fact that you choose to live 2 hrs away.
    Why should they? If you want to see your kids and have regular contact then live in the area.

    What “sacrifice” did you make to move that the judge might remember?
    Do you really consider moving to be near your kids (it sounds like you moved away from them in the first instance) to be a sacrifice???

    Yep I think you need a lawyer present!!

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    Advice needed please.

    So the the sacrifice i made was to cut time with my wife and daughter. Having to pay bills in 2 locations. Having to explain to my kids why they live like crap in one location versus having their own room and a fridge full of food.

    Multiple times I've had the police arrive at her home and serve her the court order and she still refused to let me have them on my days. Also she recently committed tax fraud by giving away our kids tax info which i got proof from the irs now and had to fix it myself and now have to show the judge.

    An i didnt move away she decided to move with her grandmother once she decided not quit her job and not work anymore.

    So i dont know what to think about the judge saying come back in 3 weeks to me versus just giving me what i asked for. He gave 3 women no issue when theres kids fathers didnt show up but told me to come back when my ex didnt come to court.
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    You are seriously neglecting your current relationship and child. You are way too involved in a war with your ex. This serves no one, especially any of your kids. Your hatred is outweighing your love at this point. It's astounding your wife tolerates this insanity.
    Originally Posted by kindred1990
    So i am going into my third year of spliting my life into a 50/50 every week. Half the week I'm home and with my wife and 1 year old.

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    Originally Posted by Wiseman2
    You are seriously neglecting your current relationship and child. You are way too involved in a war with your ex. This serves no one, especially any of your kids. Your hatred is outweighing your love at this point. It's astounding your wife tolerates this insanity.
    Well i cant ruin my relationship with my kids with my ex either. And my wife is the one who pushed me to make sure my kids with have me in their life. An if i dont have my kids at least half the time then they wouldnt have dental and medical appointments. She won't even come to court so you expect her to take my kids to appointments.

    So I'll take it i should have my lawyer rejoin me in court.

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    Originally Posted by kindred1990
    So the the sacrifice i made was to cut time with my wife and daughter. Having to pay bills in 2 locations. Having to explain to my kids why they live like crap in one location versus having their own room and a fridge full of food.

    Multiple times I've had the police arrive at her home and serve her the court order and she still refused to let me have them on my days. Also she recently committed tax fraud by giving away our kids tax info which i got proof from the irs now and had to fix it myself and now have to show the judge.

    An i didnt move away she decided to move with her grandmother once she decided not quit her job and not work anymore.

    So i dont know what to think about the judge saying come back in 3 weeks to me versus just giving me what i asked for. He gave 3 women no issue when theres kids fathers didnt show up but told me to come back when my ex didnt come to court.
    Did she decide to quit her job or was it in your children’s best interest?
    What did the initial court custody rule? Did you fight for full custody? If not why not? What were you happy to settle with?

    How old are all your children?

    Did you start the relationship with your current wife before or after your daughters lived 2 hrs away?

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    No she just randomly quit her job which was a good job. The court ruling we have in effect right now is she gets them monday, tuesday and wednesday. I get them thursday, friday and sayurdays. We rotate sundays and holidays. An i had to be willing to relocate or i would get less custody. So since she cant afford to move, the judge asked me since im the financial parent if i was willing to move. They couldnt strip her of custody without manor damage on her behalf. An i met my wife 3 years after me and my ex seperated. Our kids are 6 & 8. They will be 7 & 9 this year.

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    How does she support herself?

    How do you work with that schedule?

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    She literally is on welfare an i asked the judge as one of my request to remove my kids off welfare and let me support them an i dont want child support. I work monday, tuesday and wednesdays an every other sunday while she has them. I work 12 hour shifts and get paid good working in an emergency room.

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    Originally Posted by kindred1990
    She literally is on welfare an i asked the judge as one of my request to remove my kids off welfare and let me support them an i dont want child support. I work monday, tuesday and wednesdays an every other sunday while she has them. I work 12 hour shifts and get paid good working in an emergency room.
    What did the judge say?

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