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    Well, if she does not want to relationship to continue the way it is, there is nothing you can do but be friends.

    No problem, find another lady to date.

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    Originally Posted by harry77
    i know we were never really together but i’d love to be and feel like she’s afraid of committing as she “might hurt me”. from my point of view,
    When someone backs up because they are afraid that they may ultimately hurt you, is a kind way of telling you they don't have romantic feelings for you. She senses you've caught feelings for her and she wants to back out of a fwb arrangement nicely so things don't go sideways.

    You were friends before, she's hoping things don't get messy and you can go back to being friends again, just friends.

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    Originally Posted by reinventmyself
    When someone backs up because they are afraid that they may ultimately hurt you, is a kind way of telling you they don't have romantic feelings for you. She senses you've caught feelings for her and she wants to back out of a fwb arrangement nicely so things don't go sideways.

    You were friends before, she's hoping things don't get messy and you can go back to being friends again, just friends.
    100% this! I actually don't think she has real feelings for you beyond friendship and enjoying riding your penis lol If she had feelings I don't think she would be fobbing you off with these excuses. When people fancy someone they usually want to make an effort to make it work. She said she doesn't want a relationship and I would guess what she means is "relationship with you". I highly doubt she has actual commitment issues. I think she was just trying to be nice and soften the blow by saying "I don't want to hurt you". You should probably have a bit of a break from her all together and try to move on before you resume the friendship.

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    I think you were given an excuse, not a reason. Regardless, she's made it clear where you stand. The only option you have now is to respect her wishes. Trying to get back with her will have the opposite effect you're looking for.

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