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Thread: Intimacy issues - not his fault

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    Originally Posted by WithLove
    When I got home from work yesterday, BF was in the last minute of his 30 minute treadmill walk.
    Progress! Good news.

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    He has used the treadmill every day since we got it. Today I leaned down to give him a hug on the couch and he pulled me over his lap to straddle him to kiss me. I don't think he's ever done that in the over 2 years we've been together, so that kind of gave me some good feelings!

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    That is great!
    Originally Posted by WithLove
    He has used the treadmill every day since we got it. Today I leaned down to give him a hug on the couch and he pulled me over his lap to straddle him to kiss me. I don't think he's ever done that in the over 2 years we've been together, so that kind of gave me some good feelings!

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    Originally Posted by WithLove
    He has used the treadmill every day since we got it. Today I leaned down to give him a hug on the couch and he pulled me over his lap to straddle him to kiss me. I don't think he's ever done that in the over 2 years we've been together, so that kind of gave me some good feelings!
    That's progress!! Rotting for both of you ;)

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    Originally Posted by reinventmyself
    That's progress!! Rotting for both of you ;)
    Rooting, not rotting. Phone version wouldn't let me edit today :/

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    Rooting or rotting, rotating or straddling this is all very good to hear!!!

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    He has been cutting down on his portion size since the weekend. He has used the treadmill every day except Sunday (we had plans all day). And Sunday night we were intimate even involving intercourse. It wasn't long, as his body couldn't cooperate much... but the desire was there and the effort was made, and I really appreciated that.

    A friend of mine had a weight bench that she was selling on social media, but when she heard I was looking for exercise equipment, offered it to me for free. We picked up half of it yesterday and we'll get the rest tomorrow. He's really excited to use it. It has one of those supported bars that goes across with weights that go up to 150 lbs. He's really looking forward to rearranging our exercise room to accommodate all of the new equipment.

    I've been staying active although not really being as healthy in my food choices, so this week I'm motivated to get serious about it again. Someone on here recommended eating pickles when I have sugar cravings, and I'm munching on some snack-sized ones right now. It's definitely not what I want, but at least the vinegar-y taste gives my taste buds something to think about.

    I'll post more updates soon. Thank you all for following along and giving such helpful advice, and coaxing us along in this issue.

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    I started a new class in college a few weeks ago and bf has been using the time spent at home alone walking. We still haven't set up our work out room with the lifting equipment we got, but to be fair, we haven't really had the time. But I'm hoping we can find the time this week to do so.

    I haven't really noticed that he has lost weight, and I haven't either, although we're both becoming more active and doing healthier eating since starting this thread. I will say that intimacy has been initiated a couple times, so that's positive, although intercourse still hasn't changed. Maybe it'll get better once some weight comes off.

    Bf has said out loud that he doesn't see any weight changes, either, and he's discouraged, but he still continues to use the treadmill. He wants to get a better one that has a wider belt so that he can increase the speed - he says that ours is too narrow, so he can't go faster than he'd like because his stance changes and he accidently steps on the non-moving portion of the sides when he tries to increase the speed. I agree that I'd like to get a better one, but at least it's being used.

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    There is more to being healthy than just weight. See if he can focus on the progress that's being made that can't be tracked on gut size.

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    Originally Posted by saluk
    There is more to being healthy than just weight. See if he can focus on the progress that's being made that can't be tracked on gut size.
    Actually, i go by inches. Because you can initially gain weight if you have not been drinking enough water and now are, and your body is retaining it, or you could end up only dropping 10 lbs but your body "reconfigured" and now you are more muscular with more of a waist. I measure my waist, hips, etc. and don't measure daily because you will drive yourself nuts - but however you want to - weekly, etc. I do about every two weeks.

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