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Thread: never met. meeting for first time potentially. is she interested?

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    never met. meeting for first time potentially. is she interested?

    I met a girl through a mutual friend 7 weeks ago on facebook. she lives in germany ( munich) and i live in england. we have been chatting everyday on facebook messaging each other a lot during work lol. we like each other a lot and she tells me the same. after a month of talking i mentioned how i would love to visit berlin one day as i have never been and would be nice if she could show me around the city. she said that would be nice idea.

    we have talked a lot on facebook trying to get to know each other. she said she was single and i told her i liked her and want to see her. i asked for her number so we can text etc. i have been asking for the last 2 weeks to skype and she said yes we must do that. but everytime i try to plan a time in the evening she is vague . finally last mon i asked her lets skype wed and we agreed time as she would be home that evening and after work on wed i came home and waited for her and she never turned up on skype. i even tried calling her on her phone but to no avail.

    the next day while we were both at work we chatted as again on facebook and i told her i was mad with her she stood me up and i waited. she apologised saying she was sorry and that she came straight home and was not feeling well and went straight to sleep.

    i have subsequently tried to arrange skype with her but she says she is busy and is only home to sleep. she also says she is moving out to a one bed flat next month and is busy with that.
    i mean cmon if she really likes me surely she can afford 30 mins in the week to chat properly rather than this facebook message crap?
    also i only ever chat with her during worktime. as soon as she finishes work shes always doing something and weekends the same too so i never get to talk or chat to her properly then either.

    she tells me how much she wants me to visit her in munich when she gets her new flat and i tell her iwant to and she keeps saying that i hope i mean it. so last week after the skype fiasco i asked her about meeting together in berlin. i sent her dates i could do and she said yes those dates work for me too. (the dates are in 4 weeks im planning). i found hotels and flights and sent them to her and made a joke about how she can pay for the expensive one for me to stay in and il pay for her to stay in the cheap one lol. so i said il book flights when i get paid next week. she said but yesterday she messaged me saying she has good news for me. she tells me she spoke to her friend and that they are now coming to london in 5 weeks time. i didnt reply and she messaged me again saying " are u nothappy about that?"
    i replied saying that we made a plan and i was coming to germany in 4 weeks time. she then said that that weekend she is moving flat so cant do that weekend anymore. i told her that i dont live in london atm ( she already knew that. i have a job north of england but my family and home is in london). i asked her why dont she come to my current city but she wants to come london with her friend.

    what do i do now? im confused and wasting my time? is this how yours nevermets happened?

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    If this is not a scam it's someone pretending to be someone they're not.

    Has this "mutual friend" ever seen her in person?

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    Originally Posted by boltnrun
    If this is not a scam it's someone pretending to be someone they're not.

    Has this "mutual friend" ever seen her in person?
    Yeah, it sounds mighty fishy to me.

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    Originally Posted by SarahLancaster
    Yeah, it sounds mighty fishy to me.
    no she is genuine. we are facebook friends. all looks genuine. my friend knows her. he used to fancy her. and we have spoken on the phone for 2 mins but couldnt have a proper convo as she was at a festival when i called her

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    Originally Posted by lamo
    no she is genuine. we are facebook friends. all looks genuine. my friend knows her. he used to fancy her. and we have spoken on the phone for 2 mins but couldnt have a proper convo as she was at a festival when i called her
    Has your mutual friend met her in person?

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    Originally Posted by boltnrun
    Has your mutual friend met her in person?
    Yes they live in the same city and are in similar social circle

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    Dude, wake up! Her actions say it all! I am thinking she has a bf, but likes the attention.

    Stop the contact, and find someone local and who is actually interested.

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    Originally Posted by lamo
    Yes they live in the same city and are in similar social circle
    Where did you meet the mutual friend?

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    Originally Posted by boltnrun
    Where did you meet the mutual friend?
    iv met him a few years ago in london. known him for a while and we chat a fair bit. hes genuine too dont worry

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    I was also thinking that maybe this girl is fake in some way, but if you're sure she's not then I think she's probably just not really that interested in taking this further. How old are you guys? She could be seeing other guys too and she probably doesn't want some other guy to know that you're coming to see her, so she didn't want you to come to Germany. Or maybe she doesn't look the same as her Facebook photos anymore? Maybe she's gained a lot of weight, etc.? I find the fact that she doesn't even want to briefly chat on Skype very suss. She could have a guy with her at her place some nights so doesn't want him to see. I mean, you are not together so you can both see other people but she is wasting your time and leading you on.

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