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Thread: I cheated my long term girlfriend and impregnated another girl.

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    Originally Posted by smackie9
    Ya he came here to see if he can someway get out of this smoothly. A true coward. he won't take accountability for his own actions.


    OP you know this won't be easy. Confess and go forward.
    Character never changes. And, if you can do something like this to someone you profess to love, you can do just about anything. So self serving.

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    You accepted her love all the while you were lying and cheating.

    Tell her the truth. At least care about her enough to allow her to make an informed choice.

    I hope she gets tested for STDs since you were obviously cheating without protection.

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    Do you want to be a family with the lover? You may be forgiven, but life won't be the same.
    Originally Posted by SpiritInLove
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    Should i leave her before she discovers it to give her less pain... or take my chances to be with her; trying to save the relationship and confess hoping to be forgiven

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    I would be truthful with her, but asking her to stay with you after a betrayal of this sort would be an insult to her intelligence, (imo).

    Keep in mind that we reap what we sow.

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    "At the same time, i had a lover for 2 years. The lover knew about gf but gf didn't know about lover." I think that this shows that he does not give a sh*t about her. If he cared about not bringing her more pain, he would not have had the affair FOR TWO YEARS, or at all!

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    Originally Posted by Carus
    I'm not here to judge and it's brave of you to post that^^ It's quite a hole you've dug yourself there!

    I'm very unsure about trying to save your relationship...That is going to implode in a big way. Yes she is going to go through a world of pain.

    My first thought is you partner up with your 'lover' and try to make some sort of family for the child.....But I have my doubts about that relationship as well....

    Regardless of any of this get thyself into counseling to figure out what the hell possessed you to do such a thing.....

    That's all I got sorry....I've been cheated on and it hurts like a mutha and can take a long while to recover from*

    But it is now time for you to reap what you have sown. Trying to hide this any longer is only going to prolong the inevitable.

    Carus*
    I doubt a family with the lover will work.. sheís far away in her home country now and probably wont come back
    Also i will have to do a dna test... although i believe 99% is my child

    Yes i can afford to support a child luckily.. and this was big lesson for me; i have no excuses - Iíve been infatuated with the lover for too long and i was even thinking i love 2 women

    Its few months to go now.. and i dont know how to tell her and Iím also scared of her reaction

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    You should have considered that two years ago.

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    Noted but I canít go back in time unfortunately; i was cheated on in the past from someone else- now i ended up doing the same to someome that had no fault in it

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    Plot twist: his gf is pregnant too and is about to tell him

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    You should confess and apologize without making any excuses for yourself because there are none. Then respect her wishes whatever they are. Answer all her questions honestly and if she asks you to exit her life, do that. Two years of lying and deception was not a momentary lapse of judgment, it was a choice. Deceiving a person you say you love for so long warrants seeking professional help to figure out what got you to this mess and how to make sure that you won't repeat it ever again.

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