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    Still hate my job i started in january thinking about going part time

    heyo,

    ive made a thread about this before. as a short introduction so you dont have to read the other wall of text. im a textbook loser who now HAD TO get a job. I started as a call center tech support agent in january. i was really psyched at first that for the first time i got my ass up and actually made some money but that changed pretty fast.

    i cannot really put my finger on why exactly but i just HATE the job. Its not a very hard job or anything but i just hate it. having to phone with all those customers and having to listen to their problems and trying to find solutions. I dont know why but i just cannot stand all this customer contact maybe. i knew beforehand that this kind of job is not really up my alley because im not one to talk to strangers easily etc but i didnt imagine itd be this bad for me. Company doesnt seem as awesome as i thought at first. just every day i dread to go to to work, i come home and i cannot think of anything else but me not wanting to go to that place the next day. the only good thing is that i dont have to sell sh*t on the phone..

    ive now been thinking to just leave and look for a part time job until i can get a spot to learn a real profession in september and wanted to gather some thoughts about it from people here. i could have a part time job and make more money by tutoring kids in school (of all ages).

    im not someone to whine fast and i have lots of patience but i feel like this job is costing me my sanity. i feel like ill eventually get into a downward spiral developing some kind of mental issues.

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    Generally it takes anywhere from six months to two years for an individual to really get the hang of their position. It's only been three to four months for you. This is just past most probation periods. I think it would be wiser for you to make a decision in the next few months. You may have to shift your mindset and acknowledge your shortcomings and learn from those areas which make you feel uncomfortable. I was never much of a customer service-oriented person but I did have to learn how to be that way in some part time jobs I had when I was younger. I'm not as great at it anymore (I'll be the first to admit) but I also think I've grown in other ways - being assertive and more organized than I used to be. This means increased efficiency. Give it a few more months and some of the things I'd think about if I were in your place are:

    -company's stability/regular pay cheques (you don't have to ask about when cheques are being issued or deal with inconsistent deposits)
    -regularity of hours (this means being more able to plan ahead of time; you mentioned courses and if you have set hours, organizing a part time program shouldn't be a problem without sacrificing a chunk of your pay cheque)

    Instead of looking only at the negatives you should be able to list some positives about your current position. If there are positives, how are you able to use them to your benefit?

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    You HAD TO get a job as in nobody was going to provide a roof over your head and financially support you if you don't? Can you provide for yourself with a part time job or has something changed where you don't depend on a full time job for surviving?

    If I'm being completely honest, I feel like im "drawn into some kind of spiral" and on the verge of "developing mental issues" on account of work like 60% of the time. Tomorrow is going to be one of those days and man I don't want to go, but I need running water and a roof and meds so guess who's still going.

    Why are you considering a part time job rather than looking for a new full time job you can start, and give your notice when you have another full-time job lined up?

    I'm sorry but you're not fooling anyone but yourself: it sounds like you're not willing to up your frustration tolerance for the sake of providing for yourself. Or is there another explanation for why you'd volunteer to lose a paycheck (serious question because I'm commenting based on assumption so far)?

    People jobs are the ultimate test of your sanity, especially the first working experience.

    I say stick with it until you've arranged for a new job, whether somewhere you don't work closely with customers or some place in line with your further education.

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    What specifically is the plan for September? Have you signed up for classes? How long will take before you have a degree/certificate that would make you a candidate somewhere you'd enjoy working?

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    Pardon, RainyCoast, may I ask where you're quoting the "drawn into some kind of spiral" and "developing mental issues"? Did someone say this about you or to you? I'm sorry that you're experiencing this at work.

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    Originally Posted by Rose Mosse
    Instead of looking only at the negatives you should be able to list some positives about your current position. If there are positives, how are you able to use them to your benefit?
    apart from the ones you already named i cannot really think of much more. i dont have to work weekends (yet) and the job in all is not very "hard". idk.

    Originally Posted by RainyCoast
    I'm sorry but you're not fooling anyone but yourself: it sounds like you're not willing to up your frustration tolerance for the sake of providing for yourself. Or is there another explanation for why you'd volunteer to lose a paycheck (serious question because I'm commenting based on assumption so far)?
    maybe youre right about this. i just feel like running away. i think because there is another easier way its hard for me to stay on this path. talking about sanity and losing my mind was more of a down the road thing. im constantly thinking about work, how i dont wanna go, how i despise it etc. every day after work i feel like sh*t, im almost always in a bad mood. im at work and i think about how i hate it there and i wanna go home, i get home and all i think about is how i hate work and i dont wanna go the next day.

    ive become so passive in the few hours that i have after a work day, i dont really do anything anymore.. just sit there browse the web wanting to just get entertained. i dont even game anymore, which used to be what i liked doing most. im just constantly drained.. its not the working itself that gets me. ive learned that it gets boring af to be unemployed and being able to do what you want the whole day.

    looking at what other people or even my parents had to deal with most of their life, this job is really chill and not bad. but for some reason... i gotta admit that i also have an of a colleague sitting near me which makes it a lot worse.

    Originally Posted by RainyCoast
    What specifically is the plan for September? Have you signed up for classes? How long will take before you have a degree/certificate that would make you a candidate somewhere you'd enjoy working?
    the way it works here (apart from when doing university) its not just classes. you kinda start at a job, you go there 3 times a week and 2 times you go to some kind of "school",you get paid miserably. you learn while doing the job and some extra stuff on the side. usually it takes 3 years to finish something like that. but afterwards you can actually get real jobs.

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    Have you decided on an area of interest though?(schooling)

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    Can you afford to live on part time money? If you can, find that part time job first then leave your current job so there's no gap in pay. You obviously dont like your job so work on getting another one.

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    I was referring to the last paragraph of his post. And inferring that many workplaces are stressful. Some of my coworkers who have worked here for 12 years eventually ended up medicated to cope with the stress. In my line of work the majority of jobs will have that stress level, though
    I speak of downward spirals and mental issues with exaggeration.

    I suppose in many professions it is the same, so, bluntly, I meant it's something one sucks up until they secure something else.
    A workplace can be excessively stressful, but what I sense from OP's post is that apart from not enjoying working with customers, he is looking for a way out of the job market almost, not making sure he has anything lined up, the means to support himself either I guess, and says he'd like to work less (doesn't have a part time job lined up either) until eventually he gets a degree in something that doesn't involve customer support.

    Unless I am completely misinterpreting because there's information he hasn't provided, then I'd think he is being avoidant and that this self-sabotage can cause him a lot more harm than enduring a dreadful job until he's arranged for financial security/ a job elsewhere would. I also think looking back on himself one day, he'd like his choices more retrospectively if he could be grateful he held down jobs without a significant gap in employment than if he behaved irresponsibly by quitting it without getting a good hold of independence, financial or otherwise.



    Thank you for explaining, OP. So with the miserable pay during schooling, could you afford to support yourself? If your parents had to help you, how do they feel about you quitting the current job now?

    Honestly, it sounds like you're lethargic in general. Sorry to be that person but do you actively do anything to lift your spirits, like sports?

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    How old are you btw?

    Also, it only just occurred to me that in my failed attempt at a touch of sarcasm, I may have accidentally portrayed myself as suffering somehow. I only meant many people don't like going to work a lot of the time but we do because life doesn't pay for itself. You learn to adapt to the discomfort.

    OP, it doesn't even sound like your job is downright terrible. Maybe not very rewarding or motivating, and there's the obligatory office jerk, but I think you'll spare yourself some trouble if you accept there's going to be something at every job. Even with a (differen) degree. And in times, your knees ache, your back aches, your everything does, your ulcer bleeds, your mother is dying, your spouse is in chemo and you don't even want to get up for fun, let alone work, but you don't have a choice. The sooner you develop some tolerance for discomfort and dislike, the more you'll thank yourself later.
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