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Thread: Why are so many men on the date sites foreign nationals?

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    Why are so many men on the date sites foreign nationals?

    I have experienced over 40 men on the date sites all having foreign accents from other countries. I have not run into one American accent speaking person on the large date site I use. I have talked to them via text message. phone calls, but have not done video chat yet. They all have US carrier cell phone numbers. Oh...They are all ďseriousĒ until we make a date to meet up. OK, I get that I am a woman who is more mature than 50, looking for a decent man on the website to be a good candidate to check out. Itís more like letís see how quickly the foreign accents can try to scam me. These guys are thinking I have money. Lol! This is not the case but it is ridiculous that theyíre all foreigners. The usual scenario after a month of talking/texting is they all of the sudden have to travel overseas for work, family matters, etc. Thatís usually when they come up with the most crazy story that they need some type of monetary amount to cover something. I always say ďnoĒ, for obvious reasons. They then disappear, drop off the social communication. This is sad but in my experience, 98 percent of them are the scammers, but 2% are not. I know thereís more American men out there that are worthwhile. I am perplexed whatís up with this foreigner men gig on the date sites. Just sayiní! 🧐🤨😏. It is kind of entertaining in a weird way...lol!

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    Well, that's one way to have fun while dating.
    I guess scammers believe dating sites have easy targets. I'm glad you're able to disappoint them.

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    Just to let know you this site has members from all over the world and racism isnít tolerated here.

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    Minimize your settings. There are often a lot of telltale signs on a profile as well. You should also be able to pick up right away whether someone's more or less compatible over the phone. You can hear pauses, accents and a lot over the phone when there's no google translate or grammar check. You might also want to put more effort into your own profile and list what you're not interested in either and check your photographs - you may be drawing in riff raff with poor representations of your real self. Good luck.

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    I live in another country and used dating sites there. I speak the language, work here and I'm totally independent/not looking for money from men (I do believe some of them might think that because I come from a country that is poorer than this one I live). But even so I usually avoid men who seem to be living here only temporary or other foreigners (like me) that seem not to be very stablished here because I'm also looking for a serious relationship. I'd avoid these situations simply by deleting as soon as you see red flags.

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    Women lose thousands and thousands of dollars through those overseas scammers, mostly from Nigeria. What you described fits the profile perfectly. Easy pickings for them on dating sites.

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    Iím sorry. My advice is to stop talking to a man if you havenít set up a date Iím 2-3 weeks. More than that, heís wasting your time. Definitely donít open up your wallet to them. Nope.

    hang in there.

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    Why are you talking to people for a month ??
    If a date canít be set up within a week of text and one phone call then block!

    Or have fun with scammer , waste his time lol

    You need to look at your profile and change it because there is something on it that screams ďlonelyĒ
    And thatís the thing that scammers look for and genuine people avoid.

    Put more effort into your real social life and less time on the dating app.
    Dating apps should simply be a secondary attempt to meet someone , while also looking at real life opportunities.

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    The best thing to do is get a very well written (and not desperate sounding) profile and good recent photos up on some higher quality sites preferably where a credit card payment is required for joining/communicating and start there.

    Also make sure your settings with regard to location, age, etc are appropriate. You can't stop all scammers and catfish, that happens all over. However you can reduce the risk of that and of course screen better, identify, delete and block asap, etc. Forget videochats. Prospects should be local enough to meet in person asap after a few messages and perhaps a phone call. Rule out anyone who delays meeting.

    Being jaded and cynical won't help you find anyone, by the way. Smarter browsing, communicating and meeting is a step in the right direction.

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    Originally Posted by ~Seraphim ~
    Just to let know you this site has members from all over the world and racism isnít tolerated here.
    Iím a foreigner but I fail to see any racism??

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