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    Suicidal after getting fired from my job of 11 years

    Hi so I got fired from my job of 11 years because I said a joke to an assistant supervisor via IM that he did not want to ever help me because I was colored, well nevertheless a joke that I meant no harm got me terminated once he reported me to h.r. I was a top performer there and I liked my job. For someone with no degree I was making pretty decent money. Now I have to cope with the fact that I'll be working somewhere extremely far away with less pay and I probably wont enjoy it. I haven't been able to sleep, eat or think positive through this situation. I just want to end my life because I'm afraid that if I don't find a job soon that will pay me enough , that I will lose my apartment and end up homeless which is a huge fear of mine. I just want to end it all. I can't go on

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    If you are serious, please call the suicide prevention hotline in your area and get some help. Suicide is not the answer.

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    Don't end your life. Seek professional help!

    Start over smarter even if you have to get a roommate in order to make ends meet.

    I'm sorry about your harsh lessons learned. We all learn the hard way regardless of what lessons in life. You will learn to be careful and more cautious for the rest of your life.

    You will survive. Be strong.

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    I understand how you’re feeling right now but please know that there is always something out there that will be better for you. It may not feel that way right now...
    Reach out to your friends, family, take this free time to better yourself, get a degree, get a new job. Easier said than done but can definitely be done.
    I feel like the consequence of the “joke” is a bit much though I do know a lot of companies take jokes like that seriously. It will take time to feel better again about what happened but you’ll get there.

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    How bad was the "joke" that they would fire you after having a very good career there with them for 11 years? Is there any chance you can fight the termination in court? How about you concentrate on working to get yourself re-instated and see if that's even possible. Call a labor lawyer and see if anything can be done. If this was your first offence and your "joke" wasn't a threat of some kind surely you can fight the termination. No?

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    Originally Posted by ThatwasThen
    How bad was the "joke" that they would fire you after having a very good career there with them for 11 years? Is there any chance you can fight the termination in court? How about you concentrate on working to get yourself re-instated and see if that's even possible. Call a labor lawyer and see if anything can be done. If this was your first offence and your "joke" wasn't a threat of some kind surely you can fight the termination. No?
    I agree with this...

    Also who still uses 'colored' to describe themselves? This isnt 1950 and because its not 1950 telling a supervisor you feel you're being racially discriminated against does not give them the right to fire you. Just because its in joke form doesn't mean you don't have a right to voice your feelings/concerns

    What was your joke?

    None of this is adding up but thats neither here nor there.

    Please contact the suicide hotline. You are going to be ok, I personally would seek legal counsel, them firing you over this just doesnt add up

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    They said that what I said was a form of harassment

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    It sounds like they pre-emptively fired you to avoid a possible claim/lawsuit being filed against them (by you) for racial discrimination in the workplace.

    Unless there was more to the firing, this is very very wrong.

    There are labor laws in place that protect employees from this type of tning.

    Talk to an employment lawyer, find out what your rights are.

    Typically lawyers will handle on contingency (no cost to you, their fee comes from the settlement or award, typically 35%).

    Getting fired can be traumatic, you need all the strength you can muster to both fight the termination and look for a new job.

    In the meantime, seek help for your suicidal feelings, please!

    There is help out there.

    You'll get through this!

    Hope you feel better soon.

    ((Hugs))

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    Thank you Katrina1980 I have spoken to lawyers bu no one wants to take the case, they keep telling me they dont handle these types of cases and I made sure they are lawyers who deal with employment discrimination etc.

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    Please go to a doctor for a checkup and a referral to a therapist to treat the depression.
    Originally Posted by Tab2n0
    04-23-2016:

    all I can do is cry!
    I am so bummed,
    one again I'm back to depression, but even greater now.
    I'm so depressed & in deep despair!
    I'm just lonely & weeping ...

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