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Thread: I will kill her and then kill myself, I can't take this any longer

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    Originally Posted by RainyCoast
    It's posts like this that make me wish ena had an alert function that forwards the post to a crisis intervention centre so they can have an officer dispatched to OPs location.
    Me too.

    I am so sorry you're dealing with this, but your urgent concern is literally this minute. Please call the police, while you are reading these posts.

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    Go the police and report it. She may accuse you of all sorts but police will listen to you as well, male mental health is taken more seriously now and they will help you get away from her!
    As for yourself, are there any family members you can stay with, a place where she won't find you? Definitely get yourself some help, a crisis phone line might help right now but get some professoonal help. You don't deserve to go to prison over her.

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    Oh that's baloney, I've had a stalker before, you can get away from them.

    I had one come to my house......Uninvited, and she had never been to my house. She was running around the house, banging on all the doors and windows, yelling my name. I called 911 and a swat team showed up, with officers positioned all the way down the street!

    You are not trying hard enough. Forget about your reputation, death, anything - don't let them intimidate you, and don't break no contact. You just have to cut contact and disappear, they go away eventually. Might take a few months......you might even get a message once a year for a couple years after that. Don't open it, don't read it. Also, dating another woman will help.

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    I hope this guy is okay and not done anything

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    OP, do YOU think that it isn't an urgent concern that this dysfunctional relationship has gotten you to the point you are justifying murder and suicide? Do you think the person it has made you isn't someone who is unhinged, unstable, and needs to forfeit their freedom to act on their violent affect to trained personnel who can separate them from the volatile partner and treat their distress?

    If you are here looking for encouragement to be violent, you've come to the wrong place.

    If you are looking to be guided away from this sh1tfest, take everyone's advice to heart, report her and get a restraining order and get hospitalized explaining that the dysfunctional relationship has made it impossible for you to disengage and refrain from violence, assault, murder and suicide.

    You have made it clear you cannot control yourself so get people involved who can exercise efficient control over the situation and end it because you would clearly only see one way of ending it. When you're stable and she is locked up for violating the restraining order, you'll have the focus and reason to look for a job and place out of state. You're in no condition to make any decisions now except for the decision to have the police and mental health professionals handle the situation that's grown larger than you.

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    There are good people in this world.

    I am so sorry you are in so much pain and feel so trapped. But, please know that you are not alone. Many people are here, listening and responding.

    We beg of you to find hope that there are those that have never met you that care for your well-being.

    Get help right now. Don't think. Just drive to the nearest ER and tell them how frightened you are. They will help you. There are good people in this world. Let them help you and this too will pass. Keep your focus on that. Keep saying it over and over.

    Rise above her evil, don't create more pain and suffering by adding to to it. Rise above.

    God Speed. Please continue to reach out. Don't suffer alone. There is good in this world.

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    Originally Posted by RainyCoast
    OP, do YOU think that it isn't an urgent concern that this dysfunctional relationship has gotten you to the point you are justifying murder and suicide? Do you think the person it has made you isn't someone who is unhinged, unstable, and needs to forfeit their freedom to act on their violent affect to trained personnel who can separate them from the volatile partner and treat their distress?

    If you are here looking for encouragement to be violent, you've come to the wrong place.

    If you are looking to be guided away from this sh1tfest, take everyone's advice to heart, report her and get a restraining order and get hospitalized explaining that the dysfunctional relationship has made it impossible for you to disengage and refrain from violence, assault, murder and suicide.

    You have made it clear you cannot control yourself so get people involved who can exercise efficient control over the situation and end it because you would clearly only see one way of ending it. When you're stable and she is locked up for violating the restraining order, you'll have the focus and reason to look for a job and place out of state. You're in no condition to make any decisions now except for the decision to have the police and mental health professionals handle the situation that's grown larger than you.
    Yes,I'm actively looking and following your advice. I have to take notes on what exactly to do. I'm a very rational person but she can stir up such volatile emotion in me that I lose contact and function only with emotions. I NEVER BELIEVED I WOULD BE IN THIS PLACE , BUT I AM. I have lost the ability to eat and sleep. I have lost motivation for life. I feel like a miserable worthless sh1t. I'm locked in the house , have changed the lock and don't let her in when she comes sniffing around. But I'm losing my sanity.....I'm currently working 9 to 5 and have to leave the house. Like I said she's aquainted WITH EVERYONE I KNOW and rooted in my life. I have to abandom all my friends to escape her. The thing is this will make me more isolated. She's probably narcissistic or borderline.

    Sadly she knows exactly what my buttons are. I AM NOT ABLE TO THINK RATIONALLY when she makes me emotional. She is has done everything she can to make me dependant on her. Also she has information about me that will destroy my life is made public. She's ripping my life and soul appart. I have sank into depression(I was never depressed). I have considered suicide. I'm not gonna let her ruin my life and jump to the next victim(she has had numerous victims).

    I will go to the police and try to get a restraining order. If they don't believe my I will go live to a friend of mines(she knows where my parents live). If she finds out and comes back I will kill her I SWEAR. I CANNOT DEAL WITH THIS FKING PAIN ANYMORE.

    She's very cunning and manipulative. I've falled many times for her tricks claming she WILL CHANGE only for her to engage in INSANE BEHAVIOR very quickly. She's very good at crying and acting like a victim.

    What do I do if she finds where I live? What am I supposed to do? Pack my stuff and leave the country and my job head to nowhere?

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    Please don't try to do this by yourself. Go to the nearest ER. Tell them you are frightened. Tell them your story. They will help you. You don't have to fight this alone.


    Stop thinking and go.

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    One last thing . What happens here is twofold. First when I push her away she goes insanity mode and tries to make up for everything she has done, literally the more I try to make her gone the more she wants to be with me obsessively. The other thing is that each time I pushed her away and she came back claiming that she will change , the moment I started acting in a caring and loving way , abuse began. Public humiliation,shaming,gaslighting,sleeping with other men IN FRONT OF ME, using jealousy to make me her emotional slave.

    When I push her away she gets crazy, when I act loving she gets abusive. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH HER.

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    If you go ER now, you can tell them everything and they will immediately get support in place. Medical professionals will not turn you away. Agreed with above, you shouldn't have to fight this alone.

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