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Thread: I suffer by living but I love my girlfriend too much to leave her

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    And you are putting all this on her shoulders?
    Originally Posted by potionseller
    She's in high school in her last year. I'm a college drop out and I struggle to land jobs.

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    If you talk to ANY person who has had someone close to them commit suicide they are hurt for life in a significant way. Just because a person is functional and living their life does not mean they are not hurt or devastated .

    Two: you are not harming yourself in any fashion to get on a list for treatment .

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    How about Alcoholics Anonymous?

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    Alcohol is the last thing you should be spending money on. This exacerbates the problems.

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    Originally Posted by potionseller
    I mean the alcohol is all I really have left. I understand this, but that's why I also believe it's checkmate. I'm running out of moves to make.

    I am trying to see a doctor but it's getting the time to do it. I can't risk losing my job



    I know, but tbf, it hasn't really made things worse. I was already seriously bad anyway. The only thing it did start to make worse was my financial difficulty. I used to spend 150 a month on alcohol. Now I spend about 60.

    I tend to be more productive when I drink too. I got distinctions in college for work I made whilst drunk, and I even got into college whilst under the influence as well as landing myself a couple of jobs under the influence.

    Now? Yes, I believe I am a mild alcoholic. Not necessarily addicted, but very dependant.
    But last year and the year before that, I wouldn't call that alcoholism.

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    No. You have not sought professional help.

    You are an alcoholic. There is no "mild alcoholic."

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    Originally Posted by potionseller
    But in the UK, our free health service is overrun. I have enquired about an appointment with a doctor a couple times now, last month I even went to several different clinics. The quickest one to even be able to see a doctor is a 3 month wait. Then when they refer you, it's usually 6+ months. By the time I would actually get the help I probably need, she would probably be in the UK.



    I guess I just want an easy way out.
    You've inquired about help, but is that the same as actively signing up for it, no matter how long it takes? Or are you making excuses that it's too hard?

    Are you on a list to be seen or not?

    And you want the easy way out, but are unhappy about your situation?

    Nothing worthwhile is easy gained. It's those things we work hard for you value and in turn your self esteem goes up for up for been successful at something you thought was impossible.

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    Let me make two things clear:

    1. I have ALREADY seeked professional help, been through therapy, had medication, even had some specialist therapists or some crap come in. Nothing has ever worked. And to wait for something that is highly likely to be for nothing? After about 10 years you'd surely realise I just can't wait around that long.

    2. I know alcohol isn't a good idea and as I have previously stated, I'm just doing it in hopes that that'll eventually do my job for me. The alcohol didn't make me this way, I was already getting worse and worse years before I even had my first proper drink.

    And to work hard, I have no motivation to do almost anything. I am quite literally helpless.

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    So, you're not asking for advise it seems

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