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Thread: I think he is too shy to make a move

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    I think he is too shy to make a move

    Hi everyone,

    I have a coworker that I have had a crush on since he started. He used to be my manager but now I have moved different departments, so I rarely see him. Apparently it is common knowledge in the workplace that we flirt with each other all the time. One of my co-workers made things really awkward today when she flat out said "you guys should date, its not like he's your manager anymore" in front of both of us. She described the way we both reacted "adorkable" and said we're both awkward, but she thinks we would be a really great couple. I'm not sure what to do now because its a bit awkward seeing him now. Should I just make a move since it is kind of already out there in the open? He's kind of an awkward/shy guy so I'm not sure that he would make the first move. Or do you think he's not making a move because he used to be my manager and its a work-related reason? Help!

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    You made the same thread a few weeks back. What was wrong with that advice?

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    Its not a good idea to date someone from your work because if it goes south, it will be REALLY awkward then. However: If you're determined then just ask him if he'd like to get together after work for a drink or a bite to eat and see what happens. He will either turn you down and you can then do the mental work to undo your crush and stop flirting with him or: He'll say yes... and there ya go.

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    Honestly, I do not think that he is interested.

    He is not your boss, does not have a gf, and is on a dating app. Leave it alone!

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    This is the second coworker you've had a crush on. Maybe look outside of work for men to date?

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    Honestly, after talking to my coworkers, I just didn't agree with a lot of the advice. Our company is very open about coworkers dating as long as the person isn't your superior and 3 of my coworkers met their husbands at a previous job. Also, I have heard that it is a known fact that he flirts with me as well.

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    It's the same coworker?

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    Originally Posted by allisonnm
    It's the same coworker?
    The same one you hooked up with?
    [Register to see the link]

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    I think that if he were interested, he would ask you out.

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    If you didn't agree with the advice the first time, then why did you come back with the same question?

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