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For those who have had therapy


Seraphim

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My therapy was from a work counselor many years ago.

 

Also, I'm more clear headed whenever I take good care of my health such as exercise, strict dieting, hobbies, studying my faith, going out sometimes for a meal with my husband, surrounding myself with honorable, sincere friends and family. Everyone else is OUT. I control my life in a positive way. I think long and hard which brings forth wisdom. This requires a lot of silence and quiet time alone.

 

When it comes to my life, I don't take bad risks anymore. I'm more cautious and it has paid off which is peace with everyone in my life. It's not the 'Norman Rockwell fantasy' by any stretch but at least it's peaceful which I'll take any day which I'm very grateful for. Being grateful and having a lot of gratitude for many blessings has been my therapy as of late.

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I have had many kinds: Talk therapy, CBT, Somatic Healing , MBCT, EMDR.

I’m not sure what I had as a teenager because it was so long ago and I don’t remember any of my therapy at all from my teenage years my memories of that are completely blank . I don’t even remember going except for one day even though I went every day for a year .

 

Basically, I’m just really interested in what helps other people .

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I sought counselling once and it helped tremendously. I chose not to go back but I would have gone back if I felt I needed the help. I think I just needed someone to give me a whole lot of ideas that didn't make sense to snap me back to my regular self and call bs. It was a bit comical but I tend to have a darker sense of humour. Overall, I'd say it was helpful and I am grateful I had the opportunity through the company I was with at the time.

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I've been in and out of therapy for most of my adult life; the forms I've worked with include TA, Gestalt, Psychodynamic therapy and Bioenergetics (which I guess is similar to Somatic Healing?)

 

However, I found that attending Alanon meetings, and reading their literature, really touched the parts that nothing else had reached, and enabled me to let go of a whole load of things which had been plaguing me for years. Possibly the fact that I'd had so much therapy from other sources prepared me for this - no way of knowing for sure! - but one of the wonderful things about 12-Step is that it's free!

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I've done general/standard talk therapy a few times throughout life.

 

In my 20s it was helpful during particularly acute moments of stress, like 2-5 sessions to work through something specific, most often some knot I'd gotten myself into that combined work and romance. Probably would have really helped if I'd have stuck to it a bit more, but I had some parts of myself I didn't really want to see.

 

More recently (late 30s) I did two years of weekly talk therapy. Initially went in during the Chernobyl phase of my last relationship, though I knew within 10 minutes that it was overdue, needed for reasons far bigger than that relationship, which I think I ended two weeks after starting therapy.

 

Aside from getting me through that emotional quagmire—by, you know, helping me understand what got me into it—it really helped me sharpen some tools, see those parts of myself I'd been scared to see, and changed some of my thinking and behavior in the process. Allowed me to let go of some unhealthy coping mechanisms and replace them with healthier ones—something I'm generally pretty decent at, but there was some deep wiring I needed a hand to untangle. Also just helped me to understand what feelings are, and to really feel them, in full, rather than mentally categorize it all. The language of feeling has always come quickly to me, but I'd often used to dodge the weight of feeling, if that makes any sense.

 

I like my therapist a lot because, after a certain point, she encouraged me to stop going—to walk the walk instead of talking and talking, which I believe can sometimes become detrimental to progress, freezing people in a spot where they're fixated on themselves. She's still part of my toolkit, but sporadic. That could change if life changes, but so far I've found I'm making much different choices than I once made—getting out of things and letting go of people that don't serve, feeling what I need to feel, identifying my intentions to actions before acting, staying pretty even-keel when the waters get hot or choppy.

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a bit, but then it was mostly abusive.

 

this guy and his team just wanted to make the point that i was "not good" and used bully tactics to try and "help" me.

 

like saying i deserved to be bullied, when i never told them I was.

 

Or saying that porn is wrong to see, or i was a for not going to church.

 

therapy is a waste, and they're like predators. they prey on the weak, to try and convert them to their "tribe".

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I used to think because I went to a therapist, and read some books, I was on top of my game.

 

Until I wasn't.

 

I needed some things to happen to realize that I need to diversify my "personal portfolio."

 

That is...therapy is just one discipline of self growth.

 

There's SO many other ways to think and live life that are beneficial. Self help books, books on communication between the sexes (both spoken and unspoken), meditation, guided meditation with budhist principles on compassion and not attaching, self development groups, learning assertive communication, volunteering...etc...

 

Once I started educating myself on everything...and being open minded...that's when I noticed a huge change in my life. How to live it the way that makes me happy, which in turn makes me treat others happy...which in turn attracts healthy positive relationships.

 

Hope that helps :-)

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