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Thread: Probably The Sickest Rollercoaster youve ever heard.

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    Probably The Sickest Rollercoaster youve ever heard.

    Wow.. So where do I start

    So me and my present girlfriend now ex broke up in February.. we have been together on and off for 7 years and have a beautiful 3 y/o daughter together
    Prior to this relationship I was with a girl for 8 1/2 years and had 2 kids with that ended horribly and her taking my children out of state and caused a lot of personal drama and trauma in my life remember this note..

    For years me and this girl were extremely close whilst there being a sizeable age difference she was 18 I was 25.. But she wasn't like normal 18 year old's she was reserved smart mature..

    And unfortunately I was anxiety ridden trauma scarred depressed no motivation & a loser.. I had no job no car didn't have my own place for 4 years.. But im guessing our chemistry and my personality was worth more
    Weve been through a lot together and gotten past things most couples wouldn't ever.. We had our first child 3 years ago.. And my life and responsibility's grew Better Job after better Job Getting over Severe anxiety's and fears like driving
    We got a place together and were living there and being a family when suddenly my job started going down they cut me down to part time and some shady was happening so we made the decision to quit that job.

    2 Months went by no job calls arguments began to become more frequent we started getting more toxic and toxic until 1 day she snapped threw me out and ended our family... I got a job 2 days later but an argument that had happened where things were misspoke pissed her off really bad.. and with that breakup past trauma & complete panic took over my mind and I chased and Hounded her for about a month and a half Just pleading trying to talk to get get closure anything.. and There was mixed messages Ghosting the works which inevitably I know drove her farther away and made her angrier.. But losing my family and everything coming back I just lost it.. and her response to my plads of closure to talk to communicate and try to work things out and be a family were met with hostility cruelty hardsh words toxic behavior..

    This Girl.. and our memories and my famly means the absolute world to me.. She pulled me out of the gutter and helped me become who I am now and don't plan to stop there..

    After the breakup this girl has completely transformed at 25.. I and my family who know her well considered her mature classy etc but shes transformed into this person.. She died her hair pierced her nipples getting huge gawdy tattoossleeve tattoos talking about getting under her breasts tattooed.. Shes meeting random guys from okcupid and sleeping with them siting she doesn't want to be in a relationship or anything serious She went as far as sleeping with someone I have nothing but hate for.

    This was said after the fact.. Of last night we got into a huge fight she called me crying belligerent yelling how she hates me she wants me ing dead etc.. She called me hours later asking me to meet her at a restaurant with our daughter.. I went we went back to "Our" home together it was like nothing happened that day.. we got our kid to sleep we were communicating things like issues what had happened what shes doing.. the first time truly communicating in along time..
    and we slept together.. and then she was telling me I didn't want to know.. the above and said that im she doesn't want to be with me she wants to be alone she wants to Try new things with new people...

    And as pathetic as it all sounds I told her like im the father of your child you could easily call me over and it wouldn't be awkward or anything cause I don't want her to get raped killed or stds..

    But I was shocked.. layig in my bed next to her it was like.. I have no idea who she is.. Like overnight she transformed from a cautious smart classy girl into this reckless angsty Half teenager Half adult person..

    She assured me nothing is going on when my daughter is around she claims were done for good but ive heard this before in past breakups our last breakup minus the things shes done/ said in the last 2 weeks was far worse then this one and she said she was done then??

    I Have no idea what to do.. idk if chasing her caused her to just go out of her mind.. but last night was the first time weve communicated about issues the whys since the breakup zo its like the old girl I love is still in there..

    And im trying to make things right since the breakup I got a better job a lisence im about to get a car been working on myself and she's just... idk what she's doing its like shes completely out of her mind.

    When she had her nipples pierced she looked at me dead in the face and told me I did the ultimate thing that proves were never getting back together... and I said oh? whats that she said I got my nipples pierced and I just stared at her like who the says or thinks that?

    Ive looked up How to get your ex back self help guides the stages of a a breakup for a dumper which according to it shed be in phase 2... Elation and being completely out of character..

    I Know im all over the place with this story and skipping things but... Im lost..

    Is This Normal for people to be that drastic? That Out of Mind? That Reckless?

    This breakup was just a collimation of little things and being temporary out of work.. that exploded I regret chasing her.. and I just want to know what I have to do.... To Bring Back the girl I love and my family from the depths of hell
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    Focus on co-parenting your child and reconnecting to your other children and paying any child support that is in arrears.

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    Is there anything that can be done with her though?? Is this normal behavior at all... Im almost convinced shes on drugs with how overdramatic and out of character shes being

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    It's possible she is finally growing up and becoming independent and is rebelling and asserting that independence.

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    Focus on staying employed and supporting your children. I feel sorry for your kids.

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    Idk how you could call Drastic behavior and being eradtic like that growing up lol.. its like the mentality of a Teenager.. Like instead of family values for my child and morals.. Im gonna be Wild and Crazy lol I just don't understand it..

    and Holy ya me to everytime I see her she cries she wants me to come home..

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    I am sorry you are going through this.

    We cannot tell you here what is going on with the mother of your child.

    If I were you, I would leave her be, your relationship has had many ups and downs, use what you have learned and keep improving yourself.

    The only way you can help in this situation is by maintaining a job so you can support your beautiful 3 year old and focus on being a good dad.

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    Ya im Trying just im worried about her.. like this isant her at all

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    Originally Posted by Enderfect
    Ya im Trying just im worried about her.. like this isant he at all
    I understand, and let me tell you, often times, not always, young women who have been in long term relationships or who have kids very young may get a little liberated once they are out of those relationships, if I'm a little candid, it happened to me when I had my first child, I've seen it happen to friends of mine as well.

    It is natural to be worried, but as long as this behavior does not affect your child directly or puts her in any danger, it is not of your business

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    Like with us sleeping together last night and talking even about the I didn't want to really hear or know and her saying whats on her mind.. like I understand we were together since she was 18.. and she might feel like she hasn't lived or had fun when we had plenty.. and I know I didn't help matters acting desperate and panicky.. but its like I talked while together about tattoos piercings she had no interest.. at all and its like shes going to the extreme to distract herself..

    I Know what we had was real and everytime weve broken up weve gotten better and better as people and grown.. its just scary to see this

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