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Thread: She doesn't want a relationship, but keeps initiating contact?

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    I'm just wondering why she keeps initiating contact.
    She keeps initiating contact because you told her to:
    I told her that we should stay in touch.

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    Originally Posted by ThatwasThen
    She keeps initiating contact because you told her to:
    Haha good catch. But when I said that, it was out of a sense of fear of losing her. At that moment, I didn't wanna forget her, because I was just leaving her house and suddenly cutting off contact felt weird to me back then.

    So I said those words, but didn't mean them(as in I didn't wanna get friendzoned), though I really did want her to initiate the conversations, which she did, to my surprise. I didn't expect her to initiate them.
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    Originally Posted by FrozenFlames
    Haha good catch. But when I said that, it was out of a sense of fear of losing her. At that moment, I didn't wanna forget her, because I was just leaving her house and suddenly cutting off contact felt weird to me back then.

    So I said those words, but didn't mean them(as in I didn't wanna get friendzoned), though I really did want her to initiate the conversations, which she did, to my surprise. I didn't expect her to initiate them.
    Anyways, I'm not contacting her anymore, for a while, till I heal completely.
    My suggestion: Don't contact at all (never mind in a while) and just let it fade. Don't respond to her crumbs and get on with your dating pursuits without her horning in n your thoughts.

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    Originally Posted by ThatwasThen
    My suggestion: Don't contact at all (never mind in a while) and just let it fade. Don't respond to her crumbs and get on with your dating pursuits without her horning in n your thoughts.
    So it's been 3 weeks going NC and I couldn't be more happier. My exams went pretty well too, and I'm going on my first solo trip to experience new things. To think that I was that much hung up on her earlier is surprising to even me.

    I'll keep posting updates.

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    Fabulous!

    You do you.

    Have a blast and stay safe.

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    If it's true that she didn't have sex with anyone before, then some girls need time to choose their first serious boyfriend. She is inexperienced & she clearly doesn't know what she wants. Insist with her show her that you care about her, because that's true. Do this for 1 month or 2, then if nothing changes let her go.

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    So I realized after a while that I had an account here and saw my post.

    I met another girl in June, and we hit it off well, and now she's my girlfriend! Now that I look back, I realize what kind of depressive phase I was in. I'm glad to be out of it. Thank you all for keeping me grounded and not giving me false hopes.

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    Originally Posted by FrozenFlames
    So I realized after a while that I had an account here and saw my post.

    I met another girl in June, and we hit it off well, and now she's my girlfriend! Now that I look back, I realize what kind of depressive phase I was in. I'm glad to be out of it. Thank you all for keeping me grounded and not giving me false hopes.
    Good news!
    It's hard to see things when you are smack dab in the middle of it.

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