inthewind Posted April 16, 2019 Share Posted April 16, 2019 I've finally reached my breaking point but leaving would devastate me financially. I feel stuck! Help! Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted April 16, 2019 Share Posted April 16, 2019 Do you work/have a job? Can you move in with your parents? Siblings? Friends? Link to comment
Hollyj Posted April 16, 2019 Share Posted April 16, 2019 How so? If something happened to him, you would find a way to support yourself. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted April 16, 2019 Share Posted April 16, 2019 Get a consult with a divorce attorney to review your options. Start applying for jobs. Stop waiting on your husband like a servant. Work or take classes instead. Stop talking at him, he's not listening. Start taking action by becoming more independent. Go to social security for assistance with employment, housing, food, health care, etc. Stop acting helpless. Take action. Link to comment
maew Posted April 16, 2019 Share Posted April 16, 2019 When my ex husband and I separated my financial situation was impacted negatively and to this day, I still have a teeny tiny resentment about it... I am rebuilding the financial side of my life in my mid 40's which was never my plan... but I have relief and freedom from that relationship which makes this effort 100% worth it. At the end of the day if you take care of yourself, the universe will take care of you. Link to comment
Rose Mosse Posted April 16, 2019 Share Posted April 16, 2019 If a divorce devastates you financially, it implies that there's something or some asset that can be devastated. This likely means that you have a job, you have assets and you are fearful of losing what you have. I'd say speak to a lawyer and don't waffle about. Just do what you have to do and move forwards if this is the only thing holding you back. Sometimes starting over is the lesser of two evils. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted April 16, 2019 Share Posted April 16, 2019 Get a yob, mang! She has a job. Link to comment
ThatwasThen Posted April 17, 2019 Share Posted April 17, 2019 Why would it devastate you financially? Has he been supporting you or are you worried about him taking 50% of the marital assets? How can we help? We don't have enough information in your opening post. Link to comment
inthewind Posted April 17, 2019 Author Share Posted April 17, 2019 I do have a job. I don't want to burden a friend and my parents are not alive anymore. Another family member would give me crap for leaving. Link to comment
IAmFCA Posted April 17, 2019 Share Posted April 17, 2019 When my ex husband and I separated my financial situation was impacted negatively and to this day, I still have a teeny tiny resentment about it... I am rebuilding the financial side of my life in my mid 40's which was never my plan... but I have relief and freedom from that relationship which makes this effort 100% worth it. At the end of the day if you take care of yourself, the universe will take care of you. Me too. And yes, it will. The saying goes that Divorce is expensive because its worth it. It was, and it was. Link to comment
inthewind Posted April 17, 2019 Author Share Posted April 17, 2019 @Thatwasthen, I have a job but he still supports me in someways. I am worried that leaving would make my financial situation worse. We do not have a healthy financial situation. In the last 3 years out of our 5 years of marriage he's changed. He makes little time for me. I'm not at all a priority. I've tried talking to him but sometimes I think I'd have a better conversation with the walls. LOL! Link to comment
ThatwasThen Posted April 18, 2019 Share Posted April 18, 2019 @Thatwasthen, I have a job but he still supports me in someways. I am worried that leaving would make my financial situation worse. We do not have a healthy financial situation. In the last 3 years out of our 5 years of marriage he's changed. He makes little time for me. I'm not at all a priority. I've tried talking to him but sometimes I think I'd have a better conversation with the walls. LOL! Do you own joint property? You could always look for a shared space which shouldn't be too hard on you financially. Start doing some research on places you can afford. If you are equipped with knowledge, you will have more confidence in making a decision. Link to comment
catfeeder Posted April 18, 2019 Share Posted April 18, 2019 Get good legal advice about your options so you can operate on real information instead of allowing fear to become your barrier. Of course separations are difficult, no matter how you go about them, but a legal one may actually protect you from any further debt a spouse incurs. Find out the facts for your location, then make choices from there. Link to comment
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