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    He keeps disappearing

    Good day people. Im 36 So Ive been seeing an older seperated guy (50)for almost a year . Lately his disappearing acts have become annoying . For instance, he came over on Tuesday and stayed the night. The next morning he said hed come back over after the movies with his daughter. HE NEVER DID. No call no response to my texts NOTHING.. Following day he was leaving for NJ and I was to fly the following day to accompany him..) STILL NO CALL NO RESPONSE NOTHING. It has now been 5 days 😩. Hes a decent respectful guy that doesnt cheat BUT should I think now?

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    How separated is he? What's the whole story?

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    Originally Posted by TanishaHart
    Good day people. Im 36 So Ive been seeing an older seperated guy (50)for almost a year . Lately his disappearing acts have become annoying . For instance, he came over on Tuesday and stayed the night. The next morning he said hed come back over after the movies with his daughter. HE NEVER DID. No call no response to my texts NOTHING.. Following day he was leaving for NJ and I was to fly the following day to accompany him..) STILL NO CALL NO RESPONSE NOTHING. It has now been 5 days 😩. Hes a decent respectful guy that doesnt cheat BUT should I think now?
    He is NOT a respectful guy! Why do you put up with this garbage? After the second incident, I would have been done.

    He does not respect or value you. You are a booty call. Expect more for yourself.

    I missed that he is still married. Ugh. He is too old for you, too!
    Last edited by Hollyj; 04-15-2019 at 01:49 PM.

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    I don't need to know anymore.
    Pure and simple. I'd consider it unacceptable and I'd block him.
    Trying to figure out why would be a total waste of valuable time.

    Why does he disappear and then reappear? Because you let him.
    Block him and then raise your standards.

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    Not showing up is extremely disrespectful. Don't let him keep you on a string like this.

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    It isn't respectful of him to leave you hanging for days at a time, nor is it respectful of him to flake on you without any sort of communication or update.

    I'm with reinvent personally.... no explanation necessary from his side, this kind of behavior is a deal breaker for me no matter what the excuse is.

    It isn't that hard to either follow through on the commitment or to communicate with the person letting them know what's going on.

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    It's disrespectful on his part and I question how really "separated" he is.

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    He is still married
    He keeps pulling dissappearing acts
    Therefore, he is not respectful nor decent
    Plus, he is 14 years older than you which is old
    At 50 he should know better
    But then again, at 36 so should you.

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    Originally Posted by Clio
    He is still married
    He keeps pulling dissappearing acts
    Therefore, he is not respectful nor decent
    Plus, he is 14 years older than you which is old
    At 50 he should know better
    But then again, at 36 so should you.
    When one lacks self esteem, this is what they tolerate.

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    Originally Posted by TanishaHart
    Good day people. Im 36 So Ive been seeing an older seperated guy (50)for almost a year . Lately his disappearing acts have become annoying . For instance, he came over on Tuesday and stayed the night. The next morning he said hed come back over after the movies with his daughter. HE NEVER DID. No call no response to my texts NOTHING.. Following day he was leaving for NJ and I was to fly the following day to accompany him..) STILL NO CALL NO RESPONSE NOTHING. It has now been 5 days 😩. Hes a decent respectful guy that doesnt cheat BUT should I think now?
    No, he's really not.

    Is he still living with his wife?

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