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Thread: Catching feelings

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    Catching feelings

    So me and this guy have been casually hooking up since March. We usually just see each other like once a week. We live kinda far from each other but I work near where he lives and go out near him too so thatís when I see him.

    I know I should probably end it because I can feel myself catching feelings but I just canít get myself to!! Iím starting to feel badly because itís clear he doesnít want to actually spend anytime outside the bedroom and doesnít text me at all or anything (besides when he wants to hookup), but I still canít get myself to walk away.

    I know since we donít live that close itís not even realistic that anything beyond hooking up would happen. I donít even think I know him that well- maybe because heís the first guy after my recent ex that I feel a weird attachment to him. Itís kind of concerning and weird how much I think about him considering I barely even speak to or see him!! Does anyone have any advice on how to walk away or get over him?

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    How did you meet him?

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    We met at a party

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    And you have never been on a date with him?
    Iím assuming , correct me if Iím wrong?

    At this point he only has to put in minimal effort in order to ďseeĒ you.
    With that being all he needs to do, why would he do more?

    He might only ever view you as a booty call , the only way to turn that around is to not be his booty call.
    Make no attempt to contact him and only ever respond if he asks you out on a date straight up.
    No responding to any contact from him in the meantime.
    Not to an ďI miss youĒ ďwanna hangout?Ē ďHow are you babe?Ē Nothing!!!!

    Only to something like ďare you interested in going to see x movie ?Ē
    Or ďwould you like to go out for dinner on sat ?Ē Etc

    He might never do that , but if you want to get out of the booty call arrangement then thatís what you must do.

    Good luck!

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    He ONLY wants you for sex. That should be enough. Damn! You even drive to him. Ugh.

    Cut it off. Block and delete. There is no future. Expect more for yourself.

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    Unfortunately you have to disengage... if there is hope of this being more which it doesnít sound like it Iím sorry but if there is you canít keep delivering yourself to him.

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    Get on some dating apps and get involved in some things where you can meet local men. .

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    Yup, hop back on dating apps

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    When people want different things it's better to stop and stay away. You'll be wasting your time and prolonging your pain by keeping in contact and sex with him.

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    Silver Member Gary Snyder's Avatar
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    That's what you get for messing around with a half-baked relationship.

    The best you can do now is find a replacement. This time find a romantic guy who falls for you and who will take you on those Friday night dates.


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