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    If he's flirting too much for your liking, you're just incompatible.

    Don't confuse a man wanting to have sex with you, with a man that wants to have a fling. I always wanted to have sex with dates I found attractive. That doesn't mean I just wanted a fling. People go at different speeds. It's always a risk for women because a man may not let his intentions known until it's too late. That's why taking your time is a good idea. If a man is really interested they'll never rush the sex. I suspect the quickness a man wants sex is directly proportional to how quick he will leave afterwards.

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    I don't understand why you wouldn't consider the first date to be the right time to ask someone where they stand on dating and relationships, whether they consider themselves to be relationship material, and to disclose where you stand with that as well.

    It makes no sense to date anyone without learning whether they're dating for the same reasons you are.

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    Originally Posted by catfeeder
    I don't understand why you wouldn't consider the first date to be the right time to ask someone where they stand on dating and relationships, whether they consider themselves to be relationship material, and to disclose where you stand with that as well.

    It makes no sense to date anyone without learning whether they're dating for the same reasons you are.
    I know I should of asked, I guess I thought of it as friends until he kissed me and then I didnít really know how to ask... I donít want to seem clingy or needy so thought itís best to go with the flow...

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    Originally Posted by Boo1986
    I know I should of asked, I guess I thought of it as friends until he kissed me and then I didnít really know how to ask... I donít want to seem clingy or needy so thought itís best to go with the flow...
    There's nothing clingy about putting out there that you really enjoy spending time with him, but you consider yourself to be relationship material, and you'd like to know whether he views himself the same way.

    Don't date to make 'friends'. Playing it 'cool' is messy kid stuff. Avoid positioning yourself in limbo, trying to read tea leaves about someone else. If he's worth keeping, he won't be put off by some questions. If he IS put off, what should that tell you about him?

    Head high, and don't conflate self respect with neediness. Being clear about who you are and what you're looking for shouldn't be a tightrope walk--it's a foundational position from which to operate.

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