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    I canít speak for the OPer obviously but I think she was saying the reason for her frustration is because he requested they both stop watching porn while he cheated and is now sneaking and watching it. I donít think the OPer is concerned with him watching necessarily but his hypocrisy

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    It is troubling that you are with someone who is a liar, cheat and hypocrite. Do you not think you can find someone of more value?

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    Originally Posted by rchubn
    I've always been under the impression that porn use was more of a personal "me time" kind of thing and as long as their isnt any addiction, its natural behavior. He's just your boyfriend, not your husband. He hasn't committed his life to you like that, him watching porn or wanting alone time to "do things" himself shouldn't be anything threatening to you. Some people masturbate just to sleep at night or release some stress. I would say it's a form of self care.

    As for him not being satisfied? Perhaps he has sexual interests that aren't being played out because you're both "not there" yet and he's actually respecting you by masturbating because he could be picking at you for sex everytime the mood strikes. He's clearly realized that he can't just have sex with you everytime HE feels like he's in the mood and for both of you guy's sanity, he's going to need to take matters into his own hands every once in a while.

    If this was a marriage I'd see how this would be troubling but since he's your boyfriend, I would say he's just being human and tending to his own needs.

    The only time this should bother you is if he chooses porn over a sexual encounter with you.


    She said, she was not satisfied, not him. Also, he was the one that did not her to watch the porn, by establishing a rule. He is a hypocrite.

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    Sorry if my response is drastic but between the cheating and this porn business, I personally would be thinking of ending the relationship. Because basically it sounds like he just wants to do whatever he pleases, but keep you on a tight leash. Cheating is disrespectful and so is telling you to stop watching porn, then watching it himself. I wouldn't be sticking around too much longer to be honest.

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    Porn has nothing to do with this. Look at the big picture of his deceitfulness and cheating. Stop policing each other's sexuality. It's ridiculous.

    The biggest problem you have is tolerating his cheating, lying and manipulative, controlling behavior..You are with someone who is untrustworthy and that will be an unhappy situation if you stay.
    Originally Posted by Lmcconnell
    He came up with a strict rule that there was to be no porn watching.
    I already have a lot of self esteem issues from the cheating hes done
    hes lying about the little things. Makes me wonder what else hes lying about.

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    I am so sorry you were cheated on before and it has caused self-esteem issues. When my husband watched porn it made me feel bad about myself. One day I was listening to bott radio network and they referred to it as virtual infidelity and that made sense to me. Have you considered asking your boyfriend to see a counselor with you? My husband and I talked to our pastor and we saw a Christian counselor. Both were supportive and offered good, sound advice. Do you have anyone like that in your life that you can talk to? They may be able to help you too. :) I will be praying for you this week, for GodĎs direction and for peace with your decisions. Hugs!

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    Watching porn is not uncommon at all. Well, internet statistics show that more than 50 million people watch pornography every month.
    I'm not sure why you're so offended by this if you don't watch porn anymore. He's the one who's got the porn problem. Obviously, he's imposing this rule out of guilt and other negative feelings. I wouldn't get too worked up over this -it's got very little to do with you and he's just self-regulating. Just smile and nod and support him in his cause. I am sure he is masturbating looking at those videos. Surprise him with a masturbation lube and this will work as a medicine for him.

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