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    Do not look into another diet, you need to book an appointment with a therapist who specializes in eating disorders. It took me years to admit mine, don't do that to yourself, please! The issue is way deeper than fat.
    Diets don't work!
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    Diets usually don't work due to poor mindset or inability to curb or control poor habits. Most people will find they need support regardless of what they choose. Some, like my husband who started living ketogenic, found tremendous motivation in mountaineering and the extreme of that sport and what it required of his body and mind. I'm a kayaker by sport and philosophy so core strength is required. I don't suspect the majority of people live like him (or us) so yes, I'd suggest you see a therapist if you think you need to. Otherwise, if you are like us and if you do feel you have greater motivation to curb your bad habits and break the cycles related to your food choices, it's a matter largely of discipline and mental strength.

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    I'm sorry you are going through this. I can absolutely relate to your feelings as I've been going through something similar. Everyone will have differing opinions on what you should do. Here are my thoughts:

    First of all you are not overweight. You know this. So you don't actually need to lose any weight. Right now you are in a cycle of binging - fasting - dieting.

    You begin by dieting (1200 calories is dieting), then you binge because you feel so hungry and deprived, then you fast to make up for the binge.

    So ....stop dieting. This means stop restricting yourself to 1200 calories as if that is the holy grail. Give yourself permission to eat more because more is what your body needs.

    The unhealthy cycle you are in can be stopped if you simply give your body what it wants and needs ie nutritious food balanced with a bit of fun food. I'm not sure what your calorie needs are but at your height you can likely eat 1700-1900 calories and maintain your weight. This 1900 calories will allow you to eat some snacks and junk food especially if the rest of your meals are healthy and wholesome. This may help you to feel more full while being less guilty and more in control. Of course there will be days where you go over this calories. In that case, don't fast. Just get back on track the next day.

    Secondly, the next problem you have is you hate your body. To help this I suggest you start running. Try couch to 5k. Its 30 mins three times a week. Yes it will help your fitness, no it probably won't really do anything for weight loss BUT here's what it will do - it will help you feel better mentally and physically. It will make you like and respect your body more. It will also release happy hormones and we all need that in our lives. Trust me, it works.

    Thirdly, educate yourself on what normal everyday women's bodies look like. We are ambushed with daily images from the media that have an impact on what we feel we should look like. There's a website that shows what your weight/height looks like -mybodygallary.com. I've often looked at it because it shows all different weights and its interesting to see the normal skin, lumps, bumps, different shapes etc. I really think we women need to actively and intentionally learn to love and accept our bodies without comparing them to celebrities and models.

    Best of luck to you. I know its hard. But you have reached out for help here so you know you have an issue that needs help. That's the first step.

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    Originally Posted by charity
    I'm sorry you are going through this. I can absolutely relate to your feelings as I've been going through something similar. Everyone will have differing opinions on what you should do. Here are my thoughts:

    First of all you are not overweight. You know this. So you don't actually need to lose any weight. Right now you are in a cycle of binging - fasting - dieting.

    You begin by dieting (1200 calories is dieting), then you binge because you feel so hungry and deprived, then you fast to make up for the binge.

    So ....stop dieting. This means stop restricting yourself to 1200 calories as if that is the holy grail. Give yourself permission to eat more because more is what your body needs.

    The unhealthy cycle you are in can be stopped if you simply give your body what it wants and needs ie nutritious food balanced with a bit of fun food. I'm not sure what your calorie needs are but at your height you can likely eat 1700-1900 calories and maintain your weight. This 1900 calories will allow you to eat some snacks and junk food especially if the rest of your meals are healthy and wholesome. This may help you to feel more full while being less guilty and more in control. Of course there will be days where you go over this calories. In that case, don't fast. Just get back on track the next day.

    Secondly, the next problem you have is you hate your body. To help this I suggest you start running. Try couch to 5k. Its 30 mins three times a week. Yes it will help your fitness, no it probably won't really do anything for weight loss BUT here's what it will do - it will help you feel better mentally and physically. It will make you like and respect your body more. It will also release happy hormones and we all need that in our lives. Trust me, it works.

    Thirdly, educate yourself on what normal everyday women's bodies look like. We are ambushed with daily images from the media that have an impact on what we feel we should look like. There's a website that shows what your weight/height looks like -mybodygallary.com. I've often looked at it because it shows all different weights and its interesting to see the normal skin, lumps, bumps, different shapes etc. I really think we women need to actively and intentionally learn to love and accept our bodies without comparing them to celebrities and models.

    Best of luck to you. I know its hard. But you have reached out for help here so you know you have an issue that needs help. That's the first step.
    Excellent response! This is actually what I'm doing, even using this exact app. I'm also in therapy, but running does help. Start following body positive activists, fill your social media accounts with a variety of bodies.
    BMI is no indicator of health, heck doctors have stopped using it too as far as I know.
    Please consider therapy though, eating disorders are dangerous.
    Loving your body is so hard. We've been brainwashed for so many years to hate them, it'll take a while to finally love them.
    With therapy I've found the root of my eating disorder and am sorting out my relationship with food. Am at the step where I'll be going to a nutritionist soon to start learning how to eat healthy again. It's a process.

    Exercise and take care of yourself because you love your body, not because you hate it. That's a quote that has helped me.
    Also, whoever dumps you because of your weight, is not worth having in your life.

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    Originally Posted by Rose Mosse
    Diets usually don't work due to poor mindset or inability to curb or control poor habits.
    I'm sorry, but it's a bit more complicated than that. Just because it may work for some, doesn't mean that the rest are weak or anything. This logic is one of the marketing schemes of the diet culture. Kinda like the American dream or the lottery. John achieved it, anyone can. Nope.

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    Thank you so much for all your amazing responses! They have all be really sweet and really helpful! Just a quick update, since posting, today, I spoke to a close friend about what I致e been going through and deleted a calorie counting app I致e been using because I have realised it was doing me more harm than good. I have so made an appointment with my doctor for in 2 days time and I am just going to pour my heart out to her. This has gone on long enough and it痴 seriously taking a toll on my mental health. Thank you so much to the person who posted the response with a website for average ladies bodies. I知 sure that will help as a spend soooo much time comparing myself to others. You池e all amazing so thank you. 💖

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    YAAAAAY! ❤️❤️❤️
    Keep us posted!

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    Originally Posted by Cope
    YAAAAAY! ❤️❤️❤️
    Keep us posted!
    I will definitely let you know how it goes Friday but this is long overdue!

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    Originally Posted by Wiseman2
    Consult a doctor, therapist, personal trainer and dietitian so you can get on a healthy eating and activity plan. Eating disorders are not about weight or food. They are about using that as an outlet for other issues with body image, control, anxiety etc.
    This, please do this OP^^^^^^^^

    Also, while I appreciate that Rose has found a diet that works for her and her husband, typically speaking restrictive dieting is VERY difficult... add to that most people are pretty uninformed about what Keto is and does (although Rose does not appear to be one of those people). I have been following a Paleo diet for a number of years now to deal with my autoimmune disorder and manage my energy levels and while I recognize that it works for me, most people don't want or need to do something so restrictive and are very rarely committed enough to be successful long term. Before jumping on a fad diet bandwagon, you need to sort out what your goals are, what you do and don't know about nutrition, how you relate to food, how to make good choices, portion size, hunger signals, etc. and definitely seek out therapy and advice from your physician before proceeding with any drastic change in your diet or activity levels.

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    I'd like to point out that keto is not really a diet but a lifestyle chosen. I've never viewed it as a diet. The term 'diet' seems to be rather loaded in the weight loss industry and has awful connotations. I'm not in any way meaning that someone is weak. I learned early on that this is such a personal journey and even in online forums (even ketogenic forums!) conversations about weight loss and methods or other minor streams of the keto lifestyle can be very controversial and most people are very passionate about their own journeys. I've discovered that my husband and I actually don't entirely fit into the quintessential keto lifestyle either as our fat intake is quite different and the phase we are at in our journey is radically different from others who are, let's say, just starting out. In summary, we don't need much fat to burn. Our purposes are health related and sports related, not primarily for aesthetic reasons or issues with self-image.

    Just as I do respect the caution placed on restrictive methods, I'd also urge more respect towards others who have chosen what works for them - even if it does fall within a restrictive "diet" for specific purposes or if the D word is used. One rule does not work for all. I think what matters is staying positive and focused.

    With all that said, yes, I'd urge you to speak with your doctor but I'll be real with you too, OP. If you don't have any real motivation to be active or think positively about your self-image or aren't motivated to improve and become more positive and happy on the whole, no change in what you eat is going to help how you feel about yourself. I hope you find lots of fun and help and stay motivated along the way.

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