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    But with guy 1 and 4 we said to meet???? lol they are the ones that bailed

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    But with guy 1 and 4 we said to meet???? lol they are the ones that bailed
    They are the only ones that can answer your question about why they did that.

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    ye lol i wont ask

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    Anyone who ghosts is deleted and blocked it's that simple. It all comes down to meeting and you are doing way to much pre meet chitchat. Stop the chitchat...or not and continue getting the same results. Online dating is difficult enough as it is and the key is preventing burnout from too much time-wasting on nonsense like "he was forthcoming" and over screening guys this much. Stop the online husband shopping (which all the stats and 'he's forthcoming" is about) and start setting up concrete meets.
    Originally Posted by Chrys31
    they are the ones that bailed

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    Originally Posted by Wiseman2
    Anyone who ghosts is deleted and blocked it's that simple. It all comes down to meeting and you are doing way to much pre meet chitchat. Stop the chitchat...or not and continue getting the same results. Online dating is difficult enough as it is and the key is preventing burnout from too much time-wasting on nonsense like "he was forthcoming" and over screening guys this much. Stop the online husband shopping (which all the stats and 'he's forthcoming" is about) and start setting up concrete meets.
    husband shopping hahahhahhahahah

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    Maybe you are right though about chit chat

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    No meet = no husband, right? So focus on a strategy to get to the meet, not analyzing "how forthcoming" they may be.
    Originally Posted by Chrys31
    husband shopping hahahhahhahahah

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    Originally Posted by Wiseman2
    No meet = no husband, right? So focus on a strategy to get to the meet, not analyzing "how forthcoming" they may be.
    Thanks mate that was hilarious

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    I don't see anything abnormal with any of these. Pretty typical for online meeting really.

    The guys who are new in town - it's always going to be iffy. People love to get to a new place and immediately post dating ads, but....then they get really busy with work, meeting new people in real life, etc, etc, etc. The loneliness they imagined would happen doesn't happen and they actually find themselves in a busy situation with lots of invitations precisely because they are new. Expect a higher percentage of the new in town to bail out of meeting. It's not about you or anything you said.

    Try not to judge too much on text convos in terms forthcoming or not. Lots of people are not that great typing and if they've been online for a bit, people quickly realize that chatting and sharing too much is a waste of time. Only thing that counts is what happens when you meet face to face. The guys who actually cut to the chase and just set up a date are probably your best bet for someone being serious and looking to date. So the one that talked less but nailed a date down - it's good.

    Other than that, people bail for all kinds of reasons - work, family, ex called and wants to talk, they just met someone else they clicked with, etc. It has nothing to do with you or what you said or did. Dating is a numbers game that way.

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    Originally Posted by DancingFool
    I don't see anything abnormal with any of these. Pretty typical for online meeting really.

    The guys who are new in town - it's always going to be iffy. People love to get to a new place and immediately post dating ads, but....then they get really busy with work, meeting new people in real life, etc, etc, etc. The loneliness they imagined would happen doesn't happen and they actually find themselves in a busy situation with lots of invitations precisely because they are new. Expect a higher percentage of the new in town to bail out of meeting. It's not about you or anything you said.

    Try not to judge too much on text convos in terms forthcoming or not. Lots of people are not that great typing and if they've been online for a bit, people quickly realize that chatting and sharing too much is a waste of time. Only thing that counts is what happens when you meet face to face. The guys who actually cut to the chase and just set up a date are probably your best bet for someone being serious and looking to date. So the one that talked less but nailed a date down - it's good.

    Other than that, people bail for all kinds of reasons - work, family, ex called and wants to talk, they just met someone else they clicked with, etc. It has nothing to do with you or what you said or did. Dating is a numbers game that way.
    Cool that is very helpful. Ye i didnt count too much on the new ones to be honest.

    The most weird one however, is the one that asked to talk on the phone and then bailed

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