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Thread: Have I Ruined the Marriage?

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    You need therapy ASAP. If you dont get it then your marriage will definitely end. If it does end then continue therapy and do not think of dating again until you feel much better. The new relationships wouldnt last either. Essentially become healthy first before anything else, even your marriage.

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    Ray i agree that she probably isn't giving the full facts but not because she's being dishonest but when you've experienced truama on levels that leads to flashbacks etc the mind is far from fully functioning. WHat may seem minor to her could and probably is major to him but it wouldn't register to her. OP you need to get help and get better.

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    I definitely did not flip on him. My mind is too tired to shout. I donít know what else to say but Iím definitely not saying heís the villain. Iíve admitted my mood swings caused him to flip on me. He can have quite a bad verbal temper but I mostly always remain calm and mainly tear up when he does.

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    What other facts are there to give? I had an accident that has caused my moods to be all over the place. I made a comment about him not saying goodnight and he phoned me up screaming and shouting at me. All I said was fine before the call ended. He then texts telling me to go away using the f word. It probably seems messy because it is. I just want him back but with his temper he will scream at me before itís sorted. Heís definitely not a villain and neither am I.

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    I have anxiety and PTSD I understand but our partner canít be a therapy coach and absorb all our emotions and blips. These are our responsibility. I would look into talking with a professional. Our partners are support but should not be our only support that is too much to lay on anybody .

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    I know that and I am very sorry for how I e treated him. I just hope we get back on track and be the living couple weíve always been.

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    You can be sorry but without some kind of speaking with a professional any ď blipsĒ past a month will likely continue and get worse please go talk to someone. Why suffer when it is not necessary.

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    Thank you. I will seek help.

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    Are he and your daughter getting along better?

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    Yes, they are civil. My daughter is hurt for me as she knows heís not speaking to me, but apart from that will not get involved and will remain civil with him should things get back on track.

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