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Thread: How did you guys overcome your attachment or abandonment issues?

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    I grew up in a secure household(had its drawbacks and childhood wasn't perfect) but internally between ourselves and relationships-wise, it pretty much was perfect. Because of that security I think I grew up with very strong convictions of right and wrong and eventually just developed my ideas along the way, in line with the solid relationships I had as a child. There were never any gray areas of questioning myself and we were trained from a young age to rely on our gut instincts and respond consistently or reliably. It was a lot of pressure but it made life tremendously easy... I'd say I've had an easy life. I can't begin to imagine what you must be going through. It sounds like severe anxiety. I think you'll have to work from the ground up and repair those cracks in your self-esteem and fill in those holes where you don't have or have never had that security or convictions about yourself or your beliefs.

    It's not the end of the world. Your body and your mind are telling you that you're not in a good place and you know the difference between right and wrong. It's a matter of putting things into action and practicing right and wrong. Start living life the way you want to live.

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    hollyj, cherylyn, catfeeder and rose moose, you guys all have no idea just how meaningful your messages meant to me. This is easily probably much better advice than that of my own therapist! Bless all of you.

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    Originally Posted by Emj2006
    hollyj, cherylyn, catfeeder and rose moose, you guys all have no idea just how meaningful your messages meant to me. This is easily probably much better advice than that of my own therapist! Bless all of you.
    You're paying for the therapist, I'd find a better one.

    Head high.

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    Originally Posted by catfeeder
    You're paying for the therapist, I'd find a better one.

    Head high.
    Completely agree.

    There are some amazingly insightful folks here but if they’re outdoing your therapist after learning a few paragraphs about you, you may need someone who will go more in-depth with you.

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