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    Uncomfortable (sex related) interaction with coworker?

    Hello,


    Something interesting happened at work last week. I share a small office with 5 other employees, because we have different shifts we're rarely there at the same time. Well last week I was asked to run a small errand (stupid mindless decision) I forgot to knock on the office door before walking in. Instead, I knocked as I was entering and walked into a situation where (although I didn't see any body parts) I'm fairly certain that I walked into a coworker masturbating/watching porn in the office based on the noises coming from his cellphone.

    I'm aware that it's natural and it's just masturbation but this has made me EXTREMELY uncomfortable. I get this weird sick feeling when I'm in a staff meeting with this coworker. It makes me jittery and uneasy and I feel like it's hindered my work because I'm no longer comfortable in the environment.

    I'm not sure what I should do? I almost want to tell another coworker what happened to have someone understanding my odd behavior and discomfort?

    What should I do? I don't want to tell someone and have them not believe me and risk losing my job.

    I also dont want to sound childish as if I'm gossiping about coworkers.

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    You should NOT share this with anyone else. Either deal with it, or find another job.

    BTW, your coworker should not be doing this on company time. They do not pay him to jerk off at work.

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    You could make an anonymous complaint to management ommiting the name if the person as well. However you admitted you didn't really see anything. Only heard that you thought was porn.

    Did this person see you come in after?

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    The noises you heard could have been a silly meme that your coworker happened to open in a message when you walked in.
    You are making assumptions only and I donít think you should jeopardise anotherís position with hearsay.

    If you report or discuss this with any other colleague , then you are putting your position in jeopardy.

    I canít see how it can affect your work except that you will be more respectful of privacy of others.
    Knock and await an invite to enter. Simple solution.

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    Originally Posted by Billie28
    The noises you heard could have been a silly meme that your coworker happened to open in a message when you walked in.
    You are making assumptions only and I donít think you should jeopardise anotherís position with hearsay.

    If you report or discuss this with any other colleague , then you are putting your position in jeopardy.

    I canít see how it can affect your work except that you will be more respectful of privacy of others.
    Knock and await an invite to enter. Simple solution.
    I didn't walk into his apartment, I walked into a place of work. I might of posted this to get some advice but I'm not stupid, he has no business doing that in a work setting and honestly the fact that he couldn't even wait until he's at home really furthers the idea that he's some kind of pervert that gets off on this kind of thing.

    Me walking in during a phone call? Yes. Rude. Me walking in on a grown man watching porn and possibly masturbating in a educational institution aka a place of work where there are students roaming around? No. Not rude.

    His actions are disgusting and I've already established that, I created this thread to get advice about how I should go about resolving this situation.

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    Update on the situation: A supervisor sent an email about sending office time "appropriately" and time management/using personal devices while on the clock. This is extremely unusual. I didn't report the person or talk to any coworkers about it so I can only assume that someone else caught him doing this and filed a formal report.

    Thanks for the advice... ...And the scrutiny about walking into an office without knocking? Yes, it's not the most polite thing for me to do but worst case scenario I assumed he'd be on the phone. Not masturbating in an office that he shares with 4+ people.

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    Originally Posted by rchubn
    Update on the situation: A supervisor sent an email about sending office time "appropriately" and time management/using personal devices while on the clock. This is extremely unusual. I didn't report the person or talk to any coworkers about it so I can only assume that someone else caught him doing this and filed a formal report.
    Could just be coincidence. These days it's very common in companies where management/supervisors send that kind of email about time management and using personal devices, because, simply put, almost everyone sits at their desks playing on their phones, texting their boyfriends/girlfriends, checking their facebook etc etc .... all in company time. It's so common that it even reaches the news, lol. Just sayin'

    As to what you should do: I don't think it's a good idea to discuss this with anyone else in the office. You have no concrete proof and without that, there is not much anyone can do about it (imo). All you have is what you thought you saw/heard.

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    Originally Posted by rchubn
    I didn't walk into his apartment, I walked into a place of work. I might of posted this to get some advice but I'm not stupid, he has no business doing that in a work setting and honestly the fact that he couldn't even wait until he's at home really furthers the idea that he's some kind of pervert that gets off on this kind of thing.

    Me walking in during a phone call? Yes. Rude. Me walking in on a grown man watching porn and possibly masturbating in a educational institution aka a place of work where there are students roaming around? No. Not rude.

    His actions are disgusting and I've already established that, I created this thread to get advice about how I should go about resolving this situation.
    Iím not condoning his behaviour by any means,
    I was just pointing out that based on an assumption and lack of evidence that the only solution for your personal issue is to knock and wait.

    Without any evidence , you had nothing to report to a supervisor.
    That was all.

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    Originally Posted by rchubn
    Update on the situation: A supervisor sent an email about sending office time "appropriately" and time management/using personal devices while on the clock. This is extremely unusual. I didn't report the person or talk to any coworkers about it so I can only assume that someone else caught him doing this and filed a formal report.

    Thanks for the advice... ...And the scrutiny about walking into an office without knocking? Yes, it's not the most polite thing for me to do but worst case scenario I assumed he'd be on the phone. Not masturbating in an office that he shares with 4+ people.
    Itís a common issue employers have of using office time for personal use.

    To assume someone else reported this co worker is just that. An assumption.

    It could have been that the supervisor witnessed someone playing games on their device.
    Who knows?

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    You have no idea whether or not he was jerking it. That you'd allow your mind to not only default to but dwell on it is baffling to me. I'm sure he could at the very least find his way to a door lock if he were. Don't assume the worst of people. And focus on your job.

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