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Thread: Wife says we will never have sex again

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    Originally Posted by Essian
    Is this good enough? Should I go for this?
    Only you know if this will be enough for you. No man I knew would be happy with this for the rest of his life, but obviously I don't know all men. I wish you luck. This cannot be easy.

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    Life is way too short for bad sex.

    I feel so sorry for you, you obviously love your wife & want that intimate connection with her.

    Is there anyway she would consider an open marriage? You could find a lady who would be open to a sexual relationship, and then you could be with your Wife for the rest?
    I know it isnt an ideal situation, but it would take the pressure off you both

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    I am puzzled for sure. I don’t know if it is the pain (which I stopped months ago once I realized) or asexual or I just can’t turn her on (feeling like a loser). I think me having sex without going in for ten minute every week and she fakes it is her way of meeting me halfway.

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    I used to do porn instead but I dont want to do that anymore. I dont want an open marriage.

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    Originally Posted by Essian
    I used to do porn instead but I dont want to do that anymore. I dont want an open marriage.
    Then I am afraid that you will be living like brother & sister for the rest of your life.

    Your wife has made it pretty clear that the sexual side of your marriage is completely over

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    I guess I got no other choice. She is willing to fake it with me for ten minutes for a week. She does seem to love me mentally just hates the physical part of marriage. Maybe she will change but I doubt it.
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    Sorry if you addressed this but how was your sex life before marriage? And honestly the no kissing thing alarms me almost more than the sex issue. To be open - I've actually told my husband, at times, how I want to and like to be kissed because sometimes it's not to my liking. Mostly, it is but when it's not I tell him and I tell him in a kind, caring way -and he is totally up for listening and kissing differently. I am sure many couples talk with each other about what they like/prefer/what turns them on -especially in a marriage that's forever! Can you try different ways of kissing her or let her sort of explore/experiment? Will she see a sex therapist or do one of those kind of weekend retreats I've heard about?

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    For a couple of years it was really really good and she initiated a lot of it. She says that even those days she just liked to see me happy.

    The other day I started kissing her but after 30 seconds she said she maximized her kisses for today. She did say it was not because it was too wet which I am glad because I really did try. She says she doesn’t like the act of kissing anymore.

    We can’t do a weekend retreat because we have the kids all the time. Our kids are really nice.

    She won’t see a sex therapist.

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    Are you sure she's not having an affair?


    Her behaviour really suggests this.

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    Sex is such a big part of a relationship. Seek an open marriage.

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