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Thread: Why would he come back five years after leaving me just to leave me again?

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    Why would he come back five years after leaving me just to leave me again?

    I donít understand how someone could hurt you by leaving during a major surgery (claiming they are embarrassed for showing up at hospital drunk in front of your parents) could come back five years later stating they want to work at having a relationship with you. Just to dump you quite callously over email because of one fight. Also why would they get so angry just bc you asked if they felt the same way as five years ago bc they donít seem as excited about you. Why would they take that as a criticism. So letís say they left bc they realized they donít have feelings for you why would they blame you for everything and say youíve been acting like an / miserable and take no responsibility. And how could they cut you off literally overnight when they texted you everyday for the past four months. I lean toward he must not care but then why buy me expensive gifts and travel for an hour to see me each time

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    You're asking the wrong questions and no one on here can give you the answers. Even the responses on your other post about his Netflix are just speculation (though I imagine we are correct about him simply not caring).

    It would better serve you to ask yourself why you accepted someone back who treated you in the described manner and why you're still obsessing about them now? The only way you're going to stop being in pain is by examining what in yourself is drawn to this toxic dynamic so you can stop repeating the pattern. Stop trying to make sense or his actions and focus on what you can do for yourself right now

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    I just reread my posts from five years ago and it seems like I was asking the same questions back then too. Time to let this one go.

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    You are not supposed to have multiple accounts

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    I forgot my password on this one thatís why I opened the other one. I will close the one

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    Did you read anything that we wrote in your other thread? There were over 200 response. Why are you starting this up again?

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    Just having a bad night I guess and the last one revolves around how toxic it was. I was curious more about why someone would blame you for everything and why they come back in the first place if they resented you so much rather than about the dynamics etc

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    Go back and read the other thread. Asking the same questions, over and over, is not helpful for you.

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    If you want to be happy in the future focus on taking your own inventory instead of someone elseís. Nothing will ever get solved if you spend all your time deflecting blame onto the other person instead of working on yourself.

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    Why the hell did you get back with this guy?

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