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    No sex in almost a year. I used a porn to meet my needs during the relationship.

    And yes, abitbroken, it's really sad. He just didn't or couldn't change. Heaven knows I tried my best but at some point, you have to walk away when you don't even see someone trying.

    RayRay, your gut about the mutual friend feeding info is probably right. I would stop giving her information or if you feel petty, you can always feed her false info, nothing too outlandish but something believable. I'm petty like that though, don't mind me.

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    Originally Posted by Fudgie
    RayRay, your gut about the mutual friend feeding info is probably right. I would stop giving her information or if you feel petty, you can always feed her false info, nothing too outlandish but something believable. I'm petty like that though, don't mind me.
    I haven't given any false information*. I have however been selective about what I do tell her. Other than that, you can't worry about what you can't control.

    Anyway, even if I didn't talk to mutual friend in any detail, they see the positive changes you make when you do no contact properly. So if they report that you have lost weight/got fit/looking good, so be it.

    [*I might have to try that ]

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    Originally Posted by Fudgie
    But you know, it's a good thing. I'm almost 30 and I am where I want to be in my life: well-paying job, self-sufficient, plans for the future, family that loves me, etc. I never wanted kids (still sterilized) and now I realize that I don't really want marriage either. I have no strict "time table" and I am not pushing myself into anything. I enjoy my free time.
    I just caught up on this.
    I've always admired your strength, Fudgie and you won't look back on this decision with regret.
    You went into this with some hesitation and by the sounds of it, you gave it your all.
    Unfortunately, he stayed behind.

    Welcome back!

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    Originally Posted by reinventmyself
    I just caught up on this.
    I've always admired your strength, Fudgie and you won't look back on this decision with regret.
    You went into this with some hesitation and by the sounds of it, you gave it your all.
    Unfortunately, he stayed behind.

    Welcome back!
    Hey reinvent! How have you been? :)

    Another thing I've been reflecting on: I really do hope he finds a nice woman who he can get engaged to/marry/possibly have children and hopefully she can tolerate his ridiculous family because I sure as s___t couldn't do that.

    I am looking forward to the holidays knowing that I no longer have to "split" them for anyone's sake. I will not spend another holiday with another person's family ever again. Life is too short for that.

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    I'm back, too!

    I'm sorry to see that you split with K. Can I ask your reasons?

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    Originally Posted by WithLove
    I'm back, too!

    I'm sorry to see that you split with K. Can I ask your reasons?
    I want to say her reasons were almost identical to yours?

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    It sounds like it. But Fudgie has always known her mind far better than I've known mine, and she is not afraid to say when she's done. It's one of the things I admire the most.

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