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Thread: My boyfriend said he cannot get me a birthday present

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    Who usually pays when you go out?

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    Originally Posted by Videogame123
    I told him I would be happy with a pair of socks because I don’t have socks. So you’re wrong there
    Your language implies you want something big.

    You point out to him you’re paying for the trip. You mention here how much you spent to him.

    Read my first post again. If you wanted something small, you’d go back to him and say spending time with him is most important.

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    I did it because I wanted to, not as a way to “show my love.” And I never expected him to do the same. I thought he could do something special that is even free- ie: cook dinner, make a card, anything. What is everyone’s gripe with making someone feel special on their day? I spent the money because that’s something I wanted to do so it would be special for him. The thought is what counts, not the money, I could care less about the money. But planning or doing “nothing” is “nothing”...no thought put into it

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    Originally Posted by Videogame123
    I did it because I wanted to, not as a way to “show my love.” And I never expected him to do the same. I thought he could do something special that is even free- ie: cook dinner, make a card, anything. What is everyone’s gripe with making someone feel special on their day? I spent the money because that’s something I wanted to do so it would be special for him. The thought is what counts, not the money, I could care less about the money. But planning or doing “nothing” is “nothing”...no thought put into it
    His actions are your answer. "But planning or doing “nothing” is “nothing”...no thought put into it"

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    You mention money 3x in your original post.

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    I told him that and he has to work, so It wouldn’t even happen until weeks after my birthday. And how can you decide for me what I want. I am telling you I do not want something big, because that is the type of person I am. I split the check with him every time we go out and I never expect him to get me anything, not valentines, anniversaries etc. personally, I think even if you are broke, there is a way to show effort and do something nice. My best friend doesn’t have a job and goes to school full time and still decided to do something nice for me.

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    It kind of does because they give him money for everything and bought him a brand new car a month ago.

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    Why don't you expect something special on those big days? I know I appreciate/want those things, as they are special.

    I think his lack of action speaks volumes, and you should get something special (card, picnic, hike whatever) It does not have to be something that costs much, but thought was put in.

    OP,I would reassess your relationship, because either you are not compatible, or he does not give a sh*t.

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    Originally Posted by Videogame123
    It kind of does because they give him money for everything and bought him a brand new car a month ago.
    You continue to answer your own question with the info you provide.

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