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    Is this normal?

    My bf came over today and had to leave about an hour later cause his contacts started to hurt his eyes.

    I let him go with a hug and a kiss and told him I love him.

    But I'm low key upset that he had to leave at all lol. I didn't say anything about it just tried to drag him into my bed so he 'couldn't' leave. I just mostly turned it into a joke trying to keep him here so I could ignore me feeling LOW KEY upset.

    He left happy, albeit tired. I'm just wondering why I'm upset at all?

    I'm not complaining about him having to leave at all, just wondering why I feel not happy about him leaving haha. What a weird feeling

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    I thought you were trying to let go of the little things?

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    Originally Posted by boltnrun
    I thought you were trying to let go of the little things?
    I am! And it's totally working. Like today he went to the school pub place with his class group after a successful presentation to have some drinks. He ended up getting a little drunk and apparently these 2 girls were hitting on him and he told me all this stuff and he told me his response to them (basically telling them he had a gf) and I genuinely was glad he just had a good time. He's been so stressed the last couple of days I'm glad he got to relax today after a presentation!

    I think I explained it badly though. Like, I was upset at the fact he had to go but I wasn't upset AT him. If that makes any sense. I'm just wondering if anyone else had feelings like these with their SO? If not that's fine as I can just learn to ignore it and regulate myself better. Neither of us did wrong, I'm just wondering if other people feel like this too

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    Uh, also idk why this post is in age gap relationships

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    I believe you mean to say you were disappointed he had to leave, not upset. It's okay, that's normal to be when something doesn't go according to plan. As a fellow contact user, I likely would have done the same thing, if I couldn't resolve the issue with my eyes or didn't have a backup pair of contacts/glasses. It's hard to function without your sight, even worse if you had to drive to get there. Now that's a dangerous situation.

    Make some exciting new plans to look forward to :)

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    Originally Posted by yatsue
    I believe you mean to say you were disappointed he had to leave, not upset. It's okay, that's normal to be when something doesn't go according to plan. As a fellow contact user, I likely would have done the same thing, if I couldn't resolve the issue with my eyes or didn't have a backup pair of contacts/glasses. It's hard to function without your sight, even worse if you had to drive to get there. Now that's a dangerous situation.

    Make some exciting new plans to look forward to :)
    You're absolutely right, I was feeling disappointed!

    Thanks for the comment ☺

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    You're seriously making an issue out of contacts? He absolutely needed to go home because he would have to take them out and put them in specialised case with solution. Complaining about this is so petty.

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    Originally Posted by RayofLighten
    You're seriously making an issue out of contacts? He absolutely needed to go home because he would have to take them out and put them in specialised case with solution. Complaining about this is so petty.
    I didn't complain, I literally told him to go home??? Where in my post does it say I complained to him? Please reread my original post

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    Originally Posted by egyptianmau
    I didn't complain, I literally told him to go home??? Where in my post does it say I complained to him? Please reread my original post
    You are here complaining about how you felt.

    Which can be interpreted as complaining that he had to leave.

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    You were likely more upset than usual about this because you are still feeling stung by the events on his birthday.

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