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    We are definitely in the “calm stage” right now

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    It is time to get out. My brother left an abusive marriage of 17 years 5 years ago. His wife too would go completely postal and hit him if he had anything to do with me or my mom. He implored our mom’s help and she gave it unconditionally and still does to this day.

    For the sake of your life and the life of your kids please leave her. Call your lawyer and call your mom and get out .

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    Originally Posted by SeanGravel
    Am I wrong not to honor how she feels
    What about what YOU feel? (Isolated, limited, cut off from your family and friends, etc)

    Who is honoring that?

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    When the troubled narcissistic can't get positive attention they create drama, which turns into negative attention.

    Negative attention to the unhealthy mind is no different than positive attention to a healthy mind.

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    Originally Posted by RedDress
    What about what YOU feel? (Isolated, limited, cut off from your family and friends, etc)

    Who is honoring that?
    She says that all I am thinking about is myself and that I am betraying her wishes with letting my kids see my parents more than once a year. She said that if it was her way she wouldn’t even let them see pictures of the kids or anything.

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    Originally Posted by SeanGravel
    She says that all I am thinking about is myself and that I am betraying her wishes with letting my kids see my parents more than once a year. She said that if it was her way she wouldn’t even let them see pictures of the kids or anything.
    Let’s for a moment not care what she has to say or think or feel.

    What are YOU going to do?

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    Originally Posted by ~Seraphim ~
    Let’s for a moment not care what she has to say or think or feel.

    What are YOU going to do?
    I reached out to my family and they have been supporting me. I don’t know how to go about telling her or what my next move should be 😔

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    Originally Posted by SeanGravel
    I reached out to my family and they have been supporting me. I don’t know how to go about telling her or what my next move should be 😔
    Talk to a lawyer Monday morning. Don’t give her heads up about squat . She is abusive. Not trustworthy, not loving .

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    I'd suggest two things: an attorney to learn your options and the best steps to take for each option, and a therapist who can help you to see why this isn't healthy or beneficial for anyone in your family, including your kids. I'd have the attorney negotiate a legal separation with joint custody so your kids can bond with your family from a place of safety.

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    Sorry this is happening. She is abusing you and your kids with this isolation. She is a hateful witch and yes divorce seems to be the only way to protect yourself and most of all your kids.
    Originally Posted by SeanGravel
    She says that all I am thinking about is myself and that I am betraying her wishes with letting my kids see my parents more than once a year. She said that if it was her way she wouldn’t even let them see pictures of the kids or anything.

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