AmiChan Posted March 20, 2019 Share Posted March 20, 2019 The thing is, my gf likes partying a lot. Last time she went to club with friends, but without me (i am not really into going to clubs, i like alcohol, but with close friends ONLY at home or on fresh air) she took something called MDMA and she let another guy touch her. When she told me that, I freaked out, but she promised me several times she will not do that ever again. She said that she was high then and couldn't say no because of that, but that guy literally was touching her downthere. I forgave her, but she wants to go out without me again. I am scared. What should we do with our relationship? I am not sure if I trust her anymore. She goes to those freaking places wearing skimpy clothes and I am hella jealous. She keeps telling me she loves partying too much to stop and she will be careful now. Link to comment
reinventmyself Posted March 20, 2019 Share Posted March 20, 2019 How old are the both of you? Link to comment
SarahLancaster Posted March 20, 2019 Share Posted March 20, 2019 Why would you want to be with someone who takes illicit drugs and then lets a strange guy touch her intimately? Link to comment
Gary Snyder Posted March 20, 2019 Share Posted March 20, 2019 Well, some young women like to party and are not ready for love yet. You might have to find a woman who is more mature. Link to comment
reinventmyself Posted March 20, 2019 Share Posted March 20, 2019 You two are incompatible where this is concerned. She will resent you if you try to stop her. And you will be miserable if she continues. This is who she is and you get to decide if this works for you or not. Link to comment
Nickel Speed Posted March 20, 2019 Share Posted March 20, 2019 She's clubbing and doing hardcore ecstacy. I'd tell her to get lost.. especially when I was your age. I've seen the results of ecstacy first hand from my friend. Those highs come with unbearable lows. Anger, resentment, depression, etc. Move on. Link to comment
Wolfshook Posted March 20, 2019 Share Posted March 20, 2019 What's up with guys having such a low self respect these days? I'd nope myself out of there. Staying will just give her a green light to continue her behavior. She basically cheated on you and you do nothing? Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted March 20, 2019 Share Posted March 20, 2019 Nothing good can come out of this. I'd quit while I'm ahead. Link to comment
AmiChan Posted March 20, 2019 Author Share Posted March 20, 2019 I'm heartbroken, but you guys are just right. I guess I deserve somone better than her even if it'll take some time to move on Link to comment
Rabican Posted March 20, 2019 Share Posted March 20, 2019 Walk away. Tell her simply go to the club, take your drugs, won't matter I'm gone. Link to comment
Honeycomb8 Posted March 20, 2019 Share Posted March 20, 2019 Dump her, yikes. If u stay you'll be cheated on again. She doesn't care. Link to comment
RedDress Posted March 20, 2019 Share Posted March 20, 2019 Agreed - there is no path forward, sorry. She is in the “party” phase of life. She needs to get that out of her system - and trying to stop her will just make you both miserable. She is simply not in a serious relationship place. You, on the other hand, are ready to make a more meaningful connection with someone. “Bad timing” is a thing. This is what it looks like. Link to comment
ThatwasThen Posted March 21, 2019 Share Posted March 21, 2019 The thing is, my gf likes partying a lot. Last time she went to club with friends, but without me (i am not really into going to clubs, i like alcohol, but with close friends ONLY at home or on fresh air) she took something called MDMA and she let another guy touch her. When she told me that, I freaked out, but she promised me several times she will not do that ever again. She said that she was high then and couldn't say no because of that, but that guy literally was touching her downthere. I forgave her, but she wants to go out without me again. I am scared. What should we do with our relationship? I am not sure if I trust her anymore. She goes to those freaking places wearing skimpy clothes and I am hella jealous. She keeps telling me she loves partying too much to stop and she will be careful now. What should you do with your relationship? I'd say end it. You two are very incompatible and clearly your girlfriend doesn't have the same romantic relationship boundaries in place that you do. She's going back to a place that she cheated on you in and it is basically a meat market an she's dressed to be noticed when she's in a relationship. Clearly you forgiving her gave her the impression that she doesn't have to tone down her jazz. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted March 21, 2019 Share Posted March 21, 2019 Get rid of her. It's that simple. Find a girl who has the same values and interests as you do. You can't control where she goes, what she does or what she wears. Link to comment
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