gmaq Posted March 16, 2019 Share Posted March 16, 2019 I unintentionally insulted a girl I liked. She told me how she struggled with school in the past. I tried to care for her and said "It must be difficult for you". She misinterpreted my meaning, got angry and thought I looked down on her intelligence. I know she got angry because she said she was smarter than me. I apologized to her 6 weeks after the insult I said "I want to tell you I am very sorry for what I have said to you on Xth of December and for making you unhappy." She said "What did you say that made me unhappy? I couldn't remember." Considering the situation I didn't remind her what I said exactly in December that insulted her and what happened that day. The next week I apologized to her again but again didn't remind her what happened on the day of the insult and what exactly I said. She said "I don't know what you said that made me unhappy. What did you say?" I said "I am worried I may have said something that offended you. Was there anything I ever said from December till now that may have made you unhappy?" She said "No. I don't remember what you said. Don't scare me. Otherwise I won't talk to you again." So I want her to know I want to take full responsibility for my mistake and said "I am worried I may have said something that made you unhappy. If I did, I want to say I am extremely sorry." She still talks to me but is less friendly and sometimes say things a little mean to me. She was more talkative before the accidental insult. Because of the little mean things she says to me, I don't know if she actually still remembers and is still angry with me. There are moments I feel maybe I should make another apology to her. But this time remind her "exactly" what I said on the day of the insult that made her angry and what "exactly" happened that day. But she already told me if I apologize again she will be scared and probably won't talk to me again. (1) What can I do to make things return to the things they were before the accidental insult? (2) What can I do to build a better relationship with her again? Link to comment
limichelle Posted March 17, 2019 Share Posted March 17, 2019 The question you should be asking is why even bother? She doesn’t sound nice and worth your time. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted March 17, 2019 Share Posted March 17, 2019 I know I have read this before. Have you posted this previously? Anyway, you need to let her go. She doesn't want to be with you and is using this as an excuse to get rid of you. You need to read between the lines here, my friend. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted March 17, 2019 Share Posted March 17, 2019 Unfortunately she's always been "a little mean". Stop apologizing, she doesn't even remember her own snit/mood about it. Reflect if you want to be around someone this "mean" and flighty. She still talks to me but is less friendly and sometimes say things a little mean to me. Link to comment
Sita Pita Posted March 17, 2019 Share Posted March 17, 2019 It sounds like she is still holding this grudge, but doesn't have the backbone to tell you to your face although she won't let it go. What you need to do is let her go because you don't need to play this game. Link to comment
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