chankm235 Posted March 12, 2019 Share Posted March 12, 2019 So theres this girl I've been talking to for the past couple of weeks. And we've been hitting it off since. We both share attraction and started to open up more to each other. One day I accidentally said something that made her quite uncomfortable and there was a time where we stopped talking. I apologised after saying I shouldn't have said that and she accepted. But we don't talk anymore. She was a real catch. Like, I'm attracted to intelligent women. But right now I messed up and I don't wanna devalue myself by messaging her back, by making myself seem desperate. What do you guys think? I still enjoy my life and go on with my day but at night I just feel kinda lost and having the feeling of "what if" like " what if we were together, what if i didn't say that" Link to comment
Nickel Speed Posted March 12, 2019 Share Posted March 12, 2019 You know the first thing everyone is going to ask, "What did you say?" I feel like this is important information. Link to comment
lostandhurt Posted March 12, 2019 Share Posted March 12, 2019 What if you tell us exactly what you said and why. Then we can help Lost Link to comment
chankm235 Posted March 12, 2019 Author Share Posted March 12, 2019 Rose's are red and I miss you, I wish you were here so i can kiss you Link to comment
Nickel Speed Posted March 12, 2019 Share Posted March 12, 2019 Wow, that is cringe worthy. You really need to work on yourself and your game before pursuing any sort of relationship. Don't message her. You'll be wasting your breath and setting yourself up for failure. Link to comment
chankm235 Posted March 12, 2019 Author Share Posted March 12, 2019 Come on man, this is why I don't wanna say it in the first place. But thanks for that. Link to comment
Betterwithout Posted March 12, 2019 Share Posted March 12, 2019 Thanks for sharing chankm235. It rhymes well, but in most circles , even as a tongue in cheek joke, it's a dead art form. She likely perceived it as needy and awkward. You learned your lesson the hard way. Next time you will need to be more "cool" and confident. Something you will learn from experience. No batter hits the ball the first few times, but eventually a home run will happen! Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted March 12, 2019 Share Posted March 12, 2019 Have you met in person? You apologized and that's all you can do. Was the comment sexual in nature?So theres this girl I've been talking to for the past couple of weeks. I just feel kinda lost and having the feeling of "what if" like " what if we were together, what if i didn't say that" Link to comment
SherrySher Posted March 12, 2019 Share Posted March 12, 2019 Rose's are red and I miss you, I wish you were here so i can kiss you NO it's not cringe worthy. It's sweet. I could understand if you had been a letch and been talking all sexual or being crude but what you wrote is sweet and I don't know why she would be offended by it. If she only seen you as a friend all she had to do was tell you she just wanted to be friends. But you did nothing wrong and don't listen to anyone who tells you that you did or tries to shame you. They're wrong. It's possible she wasn't looking for a romantic relationship. It happens, but don't blame yourself. Link to comment
Rihannon Posted March 12, 2019 Share Posted March 12, 2019 If a guy sent me that, and I liked him, I would have liked it. It's not what you said, it's that it came from the wrong person, for her. She doesn't like you like that. Sorry. Link to comment
SherrySher Posted March 12, 2019 Share Posted March 12, 2019 One of these days you'll meet someone who will love you telling her those kinds of things. Don't give up. Link to comment
tattoobunnie Posted March 12, 2019 Share Posted March 12, 2019 If my hubby sent me that, I'd love it. You just sent it to the wrong girl. There's a lady out there that would love it. But save it for someone you've met in person, and have kissed already. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted March 12, 2019 Share Posted March 12, 2019 The right girl would appreciate it. Keep on being who you are. Did you meet her in person? Link to comment
LC8328 Posted March 12, 2019 Share Posted March 12, 2019 I agree with Sherry, bunnie, and Holly. I think it's sweet too & I'd love it. Don't give up. Somewhere out there is the right person for you. Link to comment
Oh me Oh I Posted March 12, 2019 Share Posted March 12, 2019 I'm VERY confused as to why, if the interest was really mutual, she stopped talking to you after you said something romantic like that? Don't be embarrassed. Yes, it's a little cheesy, but we're all a little cheesy when we have to be romantic, but as others have already said, it was sweet, also. My response to her reaction is, "What's wrong with her?!" because if a guy I liked said that to me, I'd be smiling all day; a FEW days, even. Either she didn't like you as much as you thought she did, or she doesn't like lines that sound "typical" like that, but if she really did like you, I don't think she would have stopped talking to you. It's sad that you even had to apologize for saying something nice to a girl you think likes you! It sounds so strange just thinking up that sentence as I'm typing it. But my advice is, for your own closure, don't feel like you look desperate contacting her one more time to see what's up. You're a man - go after the woman you want! Say what's on your mind about this, like what you're thinking to us but to her instead and see what she says, if anything. The only way to stop those thoughts at night that go on in your mind about the what if's is to be honest about your thoughts and feelings; is putting your heart on your sleeve. You have to risk it all to be able to move forward. Her response will let you know whether the situation should be closed or not. And if she says nothing, then it's a no-go, but you probably knew that already. Link to comment
catfeeder Posted March 13, 2019 Share Posted March 13, 2019 How well did you know this girl in person? Link to comment
Metaltwin70 Posted March 13, 2019 Share Posted March 13, 2019 'If a guy sent me that, and I liked him, I would have liked it. It's not what you said, it's that it came from the wrong person, for her. She doesn't like you like that. Sorry.' __________ Agree. From someone you don't fancy in the slightest - ugh, cringe. From someone you're totally into: awww sweeetneeessss. Link to comment
Gary Snyder Posted March 13, 2019 Share Posted March 13, 2019 If she thought he was cool and really liked him, she would have loved what he said! I say mushy stuff like that sometimes......... but I'm funny and masculine, 6 feet tall with a deep dark radio-type voice and could get away with murder! I thought what he said was very nice-nice! - see what I mean?! Link to comment
Jennifer2018 Posted March 13, 2019 Share Posted March 13, 2019 I think its cute. Im sorry she didnt appreciate that. You should find someone who will. Link to comment
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