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Thread: Is he being unfair?

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    Is this the same bully that dumped you in October? If so, why are you even with this guy?

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    Originally Posted by Hollyj
    I just bought a new TV and they are so cheap. I paid $130 for a Samsung. The fact that he is asking $75 is crazy.

    OP, check market prices online. Do you know the year?
    $25.00 tops!!

    I simply can't believe he is making this much of a fuss over it.

    It was an accident for heaven's sake. Over what amounts to $25 TV he wasn't even using.

    There must be something deeper going on here, OP how is your relationship otherwise?

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    Unless it is a smart TV they are not a lot of money. You can get like a 60 inch for $350 at a boxing day sale . Smart TVs are more pricey . Itís a regular 32 inch flatscreen TV that he bought a couple years ago itís not worth $75 . Just give him his $75 and tell him to get a new girlfriend .

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    "My ex dumped me
    Hi! I need help... I was dating my ex for 9 months (we had been talking 11), and we had a pretty rocky relationship. We would go through periods where he wouldnít talk to me for a couple of days because he needed to think. This gave me anxiety, panic attacks, all of it. In term, I donít think we were good for each other but I loved him. Recently, he pulled one of his he needs to think breaks. I expected him to really break up with me this time. I had a friend in college who I had been talking to and I told him about the situation and we started talking. I got his Snapchat at school and we messaged a lot, talking about general friendly things. A couple days later he asked me to go out for ice cream and I did, just honestly needing a friend. I was at one of the lowest points in my life , so I was happy to have someone to talk to. Later that day my ex wanted to talk again and give it another chance. At this point I was confused because I actually had a fun time hanging out with this guy and wasnít sure if I liked him or not. We had a conversation about it on Snapchat, where he said he was crushing on me. I told him that I wasnít sure where I was at and didnít want him waiting on me. I hung out with my ex for a few days, but when we got home one night he was going through my Snapchat. He saw the guy was my best friend but couldnít find the messages and demanded to see them. I had cleared the conversation just in case, because I know how worked up he gets. He hates any forum of cheating, but to me I had no intention of doing that or hurting him. I just felt alone and had no one else. I lied and said the guy was just a friend and I know it was wrong of me. I regret everything. I deleted some of the messages and then handed him my phone. He figured it out pretty quickly and got so angry with me. I finally told him the truth but at this point he didnít care and told me to get out of his house. He said he wasnít done just needed to think. I told him I loved him and he said he couldnít say it back right now ): the next day he texted me at work saying that he couldnít be with someone that lies and that he canít trust someone that turns to other people in hard times. He said heíd leave my stuff outside and a breakup text was what I deserved. I poured my heart out saying sorry and that I loved him. He told me he didnít wanna talk, and in his head I cheated. I donít even like the other guy is the thing! I just got confused and didnít know if I wanted a relationship with someone else or not. The next day he unfriended me on all social media. I need advice, please? I want him to not hate me, he was my best friend for so long, and I did love him even though things got crazy ): I never meant for this to happen and I honestly would do anything to take it all back. I want him and only him..."

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    his guy is an abusive bully! Why are you with him?

    There is nothing wrong with having male friends. Boyfriends are not supposed to control, and dictate your life. Do your friends and family know how he treats you?

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    Look up the model and buy him a direct replacement. You could probably even buy him a slight upgrade made that year well under $75 if he paid $100 for the other TV new. If he says no and insists on the cash, that would be much more telling to me. I've broken people's **** before and every time, I've replaced the item, even if they may have preferred the cash and if it would have ended up costing me less to just give them money. You didn't buy the television. You broke it. You replace it. If no direct replacement is available, you upgrade as little or much as necessary until it can be appropriately replaced.

    I don't see any good guys in this situation. I think it's a bit sheisty for him to ask $75 cash for a 3-year old, then $100 TV. I might be willing to give him some benefit of perhaps genuinely thinking 25% would be the depreciation, but not much. Someone breaking your **** doesn't mean you're afforded the convenience of getting bull Blue Book value for it without so much as having to post an ad. On the other hand, that you see this as a conversation to be had at all speaks to a lack of responsibility. You replace the TV. It's not a matter to be discussed. You just do it.

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    Originally Posted by katrina1980
    $25.00 tops!!

    I simply can't believe he is making this much of a fuss over it.

    It was an accident for heaven's sake. Over what amounts to $25 TV he wasn't even using.

    There must be something deeper going on here, OP how is your relationship otherwise?
    Check out her history. This guy is a nasty SOB, but she continues to put up with it.

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    Originally Posted by Hollyj
    Check out her history. This guy is a nasty SOB, but she continues to put up with it.
    Thanks Holls, this is the second thread in two days wherein I was not familiar with OP's history.

    I wish posters would update original thread, instesd of creating brand new one when it pertains to same guy/girl and relationship.

    Although in this case didn't matter, it's obvious from just this thread that something is very VERY off.

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    Originally Posted by katrina1980
    Thanks Holls, this is the second thread in two days wherein I was not familiar with OP's history.

    I wish posters would update original thread, instesd of creating brand new one when it pertains to same guy and relationship.

    Although in this case didn't matter, it's obvious from just this thread that something is very VERY off.
    I agree......

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    Maybe you can find a good used one on Craig's List.

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    Originally Posted by catfeeder
    I'm with this ^^^ except for the $50. He sounds wound too tight and would probably stalk me for the rest, so I'd say, "Here's your money, and lets call it a day." He'd be history.

    I agree with the folks who say that our own behavior is a reflection on us--NOT to someone else, but it's the message we send to our Selves. I'd consider the $100 bucks my tuition for learning what I needed to 'see' about this guy, because his behavior reflects on him. And it's not pretty.
    And that was my main point. Doing the responsible thing is independent of who we are dealing with and how we might judge their character. It represents yourself, and their way of handling themselves reflects them.

    The bf comes across harsh, but I think OP comes across a bit entitled. Honestly I'd be nixing both type of characters from my 'people who would have my back' list. People sort themselves out on their own.

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