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Thread: “Loving” a Narcissist

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    I was feeling a bit down last night and despite her issues, is someone I genuinely care about. That not to say I think we should be in contact but I’m not angry, just trying to be realist.
    And occasionally thinking about someone and events that were impactful seems pretty normal to me. I’m not building a shrine or living as a hermit, don’t be so dramatic.

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    Yes. Being down two years after a break, is not moving on with one's life.

    How long did you date?

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    Originally Posted by Tomthumb88
    I was feeling a bit down last night and despite her issues, is someone I genuinely care about. That not to say I think we should be in contact but I’m not angry, just trying to be realist.
    And occasionally thinking about someone and events that were impactful seems pretty normal to me. I’m not building a shrine or living as a hermit, don’t be so dramatic.
    Lol! That actually made me chuckle.

    I hear you, believe it or not I do.

    But I’m going to keep saying this because it’s big and I feel it’s being avoided purposely, you keep insisting we’re ( or maybe just specifically me) twisting your story but again didn’t YOU originally break up with HER?

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    I’m confused as to why you both keep “defending” her and discounting what I say. She’s not on here, I didn’t reveal her name and I certainly wasn’t attacking her anyway.
    The moment would have passed and I’d have gone about my life if I hadn’t posted and here I am. Clearly posting was a bad idea.

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    I told her this wasn’t working and asked her to lift a finger and she declined and said she’d check back in a few weeks. I presume she wanted to give a new guy a test run.

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    I’m sorry if I gave that impression. I actually said “ I hear you believe it or not I do” that wasn’t meant to defend her.

    I was asking if I got the timelines correct because it seems you left her, which I’m assuming you confirmed you did:

    Originally Posted by Tomthumb88
    I told her this wasn’t working and asked her to lift a finger and she declined and said she’d check back in a few weeks. I presume she wanted to give a new guy a test run.
    Which would then make your insistence that she left you when everything was perfect not completely the truth, right?

    I know it may seem like you’re getting dumped on. I promise you that’s not my intention, I think catfeeder said we can agree with you, we can go down the rabbit hole with you but it wouldn’t do you any good.

    You want so desperately to make this breakup about her betraying you, and on some level I guess you can say she did, but you’ve been a willing participant on this crazy train.

    You gotta get off. You have be power to begin healing, but you can’t heal while dragging the rotting corpse of this past relationship.

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    She broke up with me in place.. but the shift was from one day to another. I believe it’s called the devalue stage. It actually made me try harder and invest more and more until I couldn’t take it. But I thought she wasn’t supposed to be the focus.

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    And I don’t really even want to talk about it anymore. She’s genuinely the saddest woman I’ve ever met.

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