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Thread: Terrible 2ís???

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    Originally Posted by Hollyj
    You're right.

    It is very sad, as all it causes is disrespect.

    How did he survive before she came along,
    Previous girlfriend(s)?

    I highly doubt OP is the first girlfriend who behaved this way, and sadly I think women are still being taught this is how to gain, be rewarded with, a man's love.

    Some men even encouage it! Users, opportunists.

    This isn't the first thread I've read proving it's still happening, even in this day and age.
    Last edited by katrina1980; 03-05-2019 at 12:21 PM.

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    Originally Posted by katrina1980
    Previous girlfriend?

    I highly doubt OP is the first girlfriend who behaved this way, and sadly I think women are still being taught this is how to gain, be rewarded with, a man's love.

    Some men even encouage it!


    This isn't the first thread I've read proving it's still happening, even in this day and age.
    I hardly have enough time to do my own stuff, much less play assistant to someone else. I can't imagine a partner doing this for me, as I would have zero respect for him. This is called being a doormat.

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    Yeah I think Wiseman summed it up perfectly.

    A bit harsh but true.

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    It seems you are both looking for support from each other and yet, each of you feel overdrawn with nothing to offer the other.
    Next time he gets frustrated, I would recommend a few days apart to regroup and refresh. You take care of you and vice versa.

    Make some time for friends, other interests. Give each other the gift of missing each other and hopefully return with a better appreciation.

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    OP, Do you have a life outside of this guy: friends, social life , hobbies?

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    Originally Posted by Hollyj
    OP, Do you have a life outside of this guy: friends, social life , hobbies?
    I am not sure if it's fair, but when I read this I just get the sense they are up in each others business entirely too much.
    Time for some distraction.

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    Originally Posted by reinventmyself
    I am not sure if it's fair, but when I read this I just get the sense they are up in each others business entirely too much.
    Time for some distraction.
    Definitely.

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    Heís had precious girlfriends before. Apparently they left and a few would cheat because of all the time he would be away for work. He said no ones helped him this much before and he would usually just have to buy new work shirts and clothes because he would work 12hrs and sleep for a few and then do it all over again the following day for 6days a week. Spend most of his time traveling home to do whatever yard work or things needed to be done Sunday and then travel back to wherever he is Monday.
    I guess itís my own fault. I do offer my help too much because I feel that if I just get it done, I donít have to hear him stress or complain about it later on. If I have the time to do it then why not do a few of his things also.
    There have been times where I donít feel appreciated, and feel taken advantage of but a lot of the time itís brcause I feel Iím not doing a good enough job in things.
    I like to help do these things because when I was working 2 jobs it was totally frustrating for me to not have time to do my errands or laundry and stuff.
    I take care of my kids and I spend time with them when I have them. They spend 3 days over at their dads during the week. Tuesday through Thursday.
    I have hobbies. I paint, I am into photography, and I go to bible studies every Tuesday evening.
    He snowboards whenever he does have time and fishes and the usual male hobbies when he has days off.
    So we arenít around each other all the time or anything like that.

    But itís true. He is a grown ass man. And he does need to do these things himself and get those chores and errands priorities figured out so he doesnít stress about it once it piles up.

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    He is not available due to his schedule, constantly complaining and does not appreciate you. Why are you in this?

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    Heís not a bad man. He isnít abusive verbally or physically. I just notice his work has him on edge a lot.
    Any problems we have had is usually arguments that happen after trying to talk about my past issues and insecurities.
    Iíve talked to others and theyíve also suggested backing off, leaving him alone when he seems overly stressed

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