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Thread: My girlfriend has been at a frat with her friends till the morning

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    Originally Posted by SGH
    I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but if she's staying at frat houses for days on end, she's likely cheating on you. In my freshman year of college, I knew a group of girls that would stay until the end of frat parties just to give head to the president of the fraternity. Gross and probably a pang to your heart to hear, I know, but it's likely time to mentally divorce yourself from this relationship. You deserve better.
    Thatís the thing too, i know my self worth and I know I deserve better but I just donít know how to cope with it. Itís to the point where Iíve been up the past 4 nights till 3-5am and not leaving my house or only eating a small snack the entire day.

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    The sad thing is that the longer you allow yourself to be caught up in this, the more painful the memories will be of the Twoodley of 20 years from now who will look back at his college days, the last real time of pure opportunity for fun, experimentation and freedom before life responsibilities starting whittling that all away, and that older Twoodley will say "I wasted all of my time worrrying about who??"

    She's living her college life, start learning to live yours as an individual instead of caught up in worry at home like a puppy. It's best of you discontinue contact with her to help you along. If you don't, you will have a lot of regret later on for having wasted your time.

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    To everyone that has replied, thank you. I realize I shouldn't let a girl this early in my life affect me this much. It's going to be hard at first, but that's just being human. Once again, Thank you!

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    Time to let go of high school. College is truly the best time of your life and it's "me time". It's time to make new friends, explore life, grow, change, date around and see what you do and don't like, party, just experience everything socially and even academically. What you think you want to do today is liable to change a year from now. Who you are today is also liable to change a lot over the next four years. Embrace it because you will never have this kind of freedom again.

    As already said, don't be sitting around home while this girl is actually off doing exactly what she needs to do - living her life. Cut the cord while you two still respect each other and move on. Learning how to let go is actually one of the more important lessons in life.

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    College is a buffet of girls to choose from. You should be enjoying your freedom, with a new spark of excitement.

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    On again, off again relationships means it's not the right relationship for you. People who truly care will never dump their partner. They stay and work out the problems together.

    There's no getting past the hurt. Think of it as the first stage of mourning. Each day with no contact will get easier and easier if you treat yourself well. Enjoy some good meals, time with friends, and working on your education goals. That's the stage where you can begin to heal. One day when you meet a woman who is right for you, you will know why the ex is your ex. Listen to the song "Unanswered Prayers" by Garth Brooks. It might make you feel better.

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    Sorry you are going through this. It does sound like she wants to spread her wings, be free and enjoy university life. It's a natural thing to do. You need to stop tracking her on that app. It's unsafe for her to even have a tracking app like that. What you know is she won't cheat (again) so instead she's breaking up. Focus on your college life and try to get more involved.
    Originally Posted by Twoodley
    We have each other on Find My Friends and I woke up at 4am with a lot of stuff on my mind only to check sheís still there.

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    Duude, I feel bad for you. "Breaks" are in my opinion the stupidest thing ever. It's neither here nor there.

    Honestly, I think it's time to move on, you are too young to play these kind of games. If you go away now, it will sting for a few months, if you stay it will be a pain for a couple of months and by the looks of it, you will break up at some point and then again you have to go through this.

    Go out there, there are good and loyal girls everywhere.

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    Originally Posted by Keyman
    If there was ever a sign that a relationship is not meant to last it is one that is descibed as being 'On and Off.'

    So, as others have said, brace yourself, as the end is likely nigh for this to be finally over. And, while this may seem like a bad thing now, after some time and on meeting someone new in a relationship that is stable, you will understand why.
    But, I know you want to hold out for this to sort itself out, but usually a break is the first steps in a break-up. She is already hanging with other guys on a regular basis, and it woud seem, the same other guys.
    I agree.

    You guys are going your separate ways as you age. You have changed.

    Time to make a clean break.

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    Originally Posted by SGH
    I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but if she's staying at frat houses for days on end, she's likely cheating on you. In my freshman year of college, I knew a group of girls that would stay until the end of frat parties just to give head to the president of the fraternity. Gross and probably a pang to your heart to hear, I know, but it's likely time to mentally divorce yourself from this relationship. You deserve better.
    Good god......

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