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    Kinda my last post/take aways/final thoughts

    Iíve decided itís time to let go completely. The future me and my ex planned isnít going to happen. Iíve decided to pay off the loan and send her the phone back. That way itís completely over with.

    Yes sheís with someone else but my actions made that happened and I donít blame her. Honestly lately Iíve been feeling no negative feelings towards her or about the relationship.
    It was my fault that I treated her the way I did.

    Lately Iíve been getting a lot of attention from very attractive girls. That alone has helped me see that thereís other people out there potentially better than my ex. Iím really excited for the future in that regard.

    My ex isnít a bad person. She just has feelings like everyone else. I tried to convince myself of something else. It was because deep down I know I was the reason it ended. That feeling of losing her tho thatís going away very quickly.

    Iím gonna quit my job and go to school. I shouldnít waste anymore time. Nursing seems appealing to me so I may go down that route. Makes good money and gets to deal with people therefor I get to bring joy to people. I love to make people laugh and smile.

    My only problem is having to accept my financial status will suffer with going to college but my social status would increase.

    Lately Iíve sorta came alive in that sense. I have no problem talking to girls, itís so odd to me. I genuinely feel happy and goofy now.

    I feel like Iím running out of time tho. I wanted to be young(before 30) and have a free comfortable life. Iím only 22 but yet 30 seems so close. I plan on getting married at that age and having kids so I want to figure stuff out before then. This plays such a huge role in my mind. Itís like itís taken over my depression over my ex. I just want to fix my life and make it better.

    Thereís nothing left to say or feel about my ex. All the advice has been said. That chapter is done. I donít even feel sad about it.

    I wonít forget how I treated her but I donít feel guilty about it. Iíll always associate my treatment toward others with the pain I felt from losing my ex. Knowing what can happen if you do treat someone wrong. Iím aware of that now maybe not 100% but definitely aware in a big way.

    I remember when my first love dumped me. I was in verrryyy bad shape for a long time. Then one day I just stopped and let it go.

    Some advice I do want is regarding being a server. I need to find another job for when I start school a couple months from now. I was thinking of waiting tables it seems like a good job plus Id get to work on my social skills. I just have an image in my head on how that would make me happy doing that. Is that odd? I do worry about the stress tho. That feeling of failing because you canít take the stress? I shouldnít look at it that way should I? Plus Iíd get to talk to more girls which Iím very interested in doing. In a way it makes me want to go to college even more. Is that normal? I donít want to regret not having fun in these years of my life.

    The financial problem is what would bother me the most in my about going.

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    Originally Posted by Austino96
    Some advice I do want is regarding being a server. I need to find another job for when I start school a couple months from now. I was thinking of waiting tables it seems like a good job plus Id get to work on my social skills. I just have an image in my head on how that would make me happy doing that. Is that odd? I do worry about the stress tho. That feeling of failing because you canít take the stress? I shouldnít look at it that way should I? Plus Iíd get to talk to more girls which Iím very interested in doing. In a way it makes me want to go to college even more. Is that normal? I donít want to regret not having fun in these years of my life.
    I was a server and bartender for a bit during my university years. It was alright, but like any job, it totally depends on you, where you work, your managers, your colleagues and so on.

    One place I worked for was awful. The restaurant was poorly-run and while it turned a decent profit and I did okay with tips, it wasn't worth the hassle. The owner was a jerk and behaved that way with staff, plain and simple.

    Another was much better. It was an eatery inside a posh private club, the clientele was very wealthy, and the tips were amazing. The drawback? The serving staff was very much treated like "hired help" by the customers and they could be extremely demanding. You needed a thick skin to work there.

    I would encourage you try serving, but go into it with realistic expectations. It won't be the answer to all your problems. There's a learning curve, as with any job. Keep focused on your employment goals there, though, and the annoyances will be easier to deal with.

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    Originally Posted by Austino96
    Iíve decided to pay off the loan and send her the phone back.
    Pay the loan and throw the phone in a recycling bin.

    Do not contact her. Even to send the phone. Anything you do like that is an attempt to interact with her. Worse still, its a one way attempt, with faint hope of a reply.

    I'm guessing you would love her to text you when she receives it, so you can tell her about how you are moving on.

    Do.Not.Do.This.

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    Originally Posted by RayRay63
    Pay the loan and throw the phone in a recycling bin.

    Do not contact her. Even to send the phone. Anything you do like that is an attempt to interact with her. Worse still, its a one way attempt, with faint hope of a reply.

    I'm guessing you would love her to text you when she receives it, so you can tell her about how you are moving on.

    Do.Not.Do.This.
    Tbh I wouldnít care if she did. Like seriously I donít care. I was gonna send it to her to really be done with this. Plus thereís value to the phone. 4-500$. Would make the loan easier to pay off if you get my drift.

    Also I mean I have no hope. Iím way more excited about the future. Sheís the past Iím not worried about potential contact with her. If she sees it as me trying to get into her life then idc the relationship is DONE. Donít get me wrong I do not want contact. All I was going to do was mail it and say nothing.

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    Originally Posted by Austino96
    Tbh I wouldnít care if she did. Like seriously I donít care. I was gonna send it to her to really be done with this. Plus thereís value to the phone. 4-500$. Would make the loan easier to pay off if you get my drift.

    Also I mean I have no hope. Iím way more excited about the future. Sheís the past Iím not worried about potential contact with her. If she sees it as me trying to get into her life then idc the relationship is DONE. Donít get me wrong I do not want contact. All I was going to do was mail it and say nothing.
    Yeah, I donít see anything wrong with sending the phone, exes
    Exchange property all the time, it will be good to
    Cut all
    Ties and not have it there as a reminder.

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    Binning it would work the same.

    Tbh I wouldnít care if she did
    So you are going to block her everywhere the day you put the phone in the mail?

    If so, send it to her.

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    Originally Posted by RayRay63
    Binning it would work the same.



    So you are going to block her everywhere the day you put the phone in the mail?

    If so, send it to her.
    Contact isnít possible already blocked. I donít foresee unblocking her/her unblocking me. Plus I just donít care. All I know is my own intentions. Iíve reached that point that Iím truly done with this. No shade at my ex sheís great but at some point you just gotta let go and stop caring.

    Iím past that point.

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    Hey Austino96! I am sorry that all of this is going on. I want you to know that I am praying for you and the situation you are going through.


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