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    She cancelled our date

    We had a date set up days in advance and she called me the night before to cancel the date because she wanted to go to a concert with her friend. She told me "I really wanna go to the concert with my friend... you can come with us if you want". My response was something like: "well, we can meet some other time if you can't make our date. Let me know when you're free". I felt like I was blown off for something better that came along and was invited because she felt obligated and guilty for her to do so. How would you folks responded?

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    We need more context, OP.

    Is this your girlfriend, or someone you've just started dating?

    How did she respond when you told her to let you know when she's free?

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    Was it a band that plays all the time in the area or is it something that if she doesn't go and see she'll never get the chance again?

    Has she done similar in the past or is this the first time?

    At least she gave you a day's notice and asked you along too. If she was blowing you off, why would she have asked you to come?

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    Originally Posted by BrokenGator
    We had a date set up days in advance and she called me the night before to cancel the date because she wanted to go to a concert with her friend. She told me "I really wanna go to the concert with my friend... you can come with us if you want". My response was something like: "well, we can meet some other time if you can't make our date. Let me know when you're free". I felt like I was blown off for something better that came along and was invited because she felt obligated and guilty for her to do so. How would you folks responded?
    I would never deal with this person again. She clearly is selfish and does not value other people's time. Not the type of person I would want in my life. She has shown you who she is, it will happen again.

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    You were blown off. Delete and block anyone who disrespects you, your time and energy this much. You handled it well but the flakiness here isn't worth it.
    Originally Posted by BrokenGator
    I felt like I was blown off for something better that came along and was invited because she felt obligated and guilty for her to do so.?

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    I'd like more context as well. Was this a once in a lifetime opportunity or some band she can see any time? How often has she cancelled? How long have you been going out?

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    If he could come along last minute, then my guess is that this wasn't a once in a lifetime concert where her friend happened to score a couple of tickets and invited her.

    Sorry, she blew you off for a better or more entertaining option in her mind. Maybe blew you off isn't the right word choice since she offered for you to tag along, but I'd say that she clearly demonstrated a very very low interest level in dating you. Almost want to say that you got downgraded to the friend zone here.

    If you are looking to date, then keep on looking and don't waste any more time on this woman.

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    Well hell, the least she could have done was lie and told you she had a family emergency or some other bogus excuse like many people do, lol.

    I'm being facetious obviously, point is she was honest and told you she wanted to attend a concert and invited you.

    And for that, you are being advised to dump her?

    This is precisely why people lie. Just like in another thread, being open and honest gets you dumped.

    I dunno, I was taught the truth, honesty is best, apparently not. Ugh.

    And the fact she invited you speaks volumes, but of course, this doesn't matter, just dump her.

    Edit: She didn't "blow you off" she cancelled a date the night before, and invited you to join.

    But I give up.

    Good luck.

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    Originally Posted by BrokenGator
    We had a date set up days in advance and she called me the night before to cancel the date because she wanted to go to a concert with her friend. She told me "I really wanna go to the concert with my friend... you can come with us if you want". My response was something like: "well, we can meet some other time if you can't make our date. Let me know when you're free". I felt like I was blown off for something better that came along and was invited because she felt obligated and guilty for her to do so. How would you folks responded?

    You feel like you were blown off, because you were. I would lose this gal's number. If she tries to call, block her.

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    Originally Posted by MissCanuck
    We need more context, OP.

    Is this your girlfriend, or someone you've just started dating?

    How did she respond when you told her to let you know when she's free?
    She is not my girlfriend. And when I told her to let me know when she's free she said, "ok". Then the subject changed and a few mins later I told her I had to go eat... I was starving.

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