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Thread: Having boy time/ girl time in a struggling relationship

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    Originally Posted by Capricorn3
    I must have missed that part. Where does she say they have an open relationship? :confused:
    Because they both cheated on each other several times and they were planing how they'd deal with the "mistress" being pregnant.

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    Originally Posted by Annia
    Because they both cheated on each other several times and they were planing how they'd deal with the "mistress" being pregnant.
    Ahh, ok. I had always understood "open" relationships were where both partners discussed and agreed to have an open relationship. Never knew that both partners cheating was classed as "open" relationship. As for planning how to deal with the "pregnant" mistress - well, that's what one would have to do if you need to come to a decision on divorcing or staying married and how to deal with child custody etc.

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    Unfortunately "open" may be the wrong terminology for this but they both cheat and they both know about it...so for lack of a better term for this. But the bottom line is the same whatever it's called. Policing him is not the solution.
    Originally Posted by Capricorn3
    Never knew that both partners cheating was classed as "open" relationship. As for planning how to deal with the "pregnant" mistress - well, that's what one would have to do if you need to come to a decision on divorcing or staying married and how to deal with child custody etc.

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    Originally Posted by Wiseman2
    Policing him is not the solution.
    Oh I totally agree. This marriage is doomed either way (imo), as I said before .... without trust, you have nothing.

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    Originally Posted by Capricorn3
    Ahh, ok. I had always understood "open" relationships were where both partners discussed and agreed to have an open relationship. Never knew that both partners cheating was classed as "open" relationship. As for planning how to deal with the "pregnant" mistress - well, that's what one would have to do if you need to come to a decision on divorcing or staying married and how to deal with child custody etc.
    I don't know but I thought about the term a bit ironically not as an actual relationship. I don't think they had agreed with each other that they could have partners outside the marriage when they cheated on each other.

    She obviously doesn't trust him and he maybe doesn't trust her either because she also cheated. This is not about policing him and that won't change anything. This marriage is doomed with infidelity on both sides, not dealing with it, resentment and lack of trust. These issues won't suddenly disappear just because the mistress is not pregnant and she's policing him.

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    you still need time apart... go hang with the girls

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