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    I'm in a very stressful environment too and we're working well bellow the number of employees we should be working. I'm a mess. I'm curious to read the advice of others.

    But something that helps me is having moments to myself, where I'm distracted with other things. Also I have problems sleeping and lack of sleep leads to more stress.

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    Also -maybe TMI -the side benefit to drinking a lot of water during the day at work is more visits to the restroom -which means more moving around, getting away from your screen or whatever. One time when I was pregnant and having to go all the time I actually left a long boring conference call on mute and ran down the hall hoping no one would address me specifically. I made it thank goodness. As Annia wrote - yes moments to yourself, and "prioritize your panic" meaning get perspective -not everything is a crisis even though you're generally in adrenaline crisis mode. Yesterday I had a really huge deadline. i had to work with two staff members who are assistants to us. i really hate doing that -they are great and I am always concerned that my stress will show, that my tone will reflect stress or even impatience. And I feel like I'm walking on eggshells. So I told myself on the way to work -I am going to a "tea party" (meaning relax, slow down your voice) and the deadline will be met - maybe not perfectly but I wasn't going to sacrifice a good working relationship with staff or anyone.

    So in reality I was stressed with the number of questions from one staff member but I made myself respond every time in a thoughtful and appreciative way, offered to come to her office if that would be more helpful to her, etc. Also -let things go. I let it go that she didn't prepare certain things exactly as I would have liked because -big deal -why pick that battle and the increase the stress of getting it done? Often times I find when I am under stress my pickiness increases. Be as self aware as possible and know when you must step away, when you shouldn't reply to an email etc right then because you are feeling stressed. Etc.

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    Originally Posted by Batya33
    Also -maybe TMI -the side benefit to drinking a lot of water during the day at work is more visits to the restroom -which means more moving around, getting away from your screen or whatever. One time when I was pregnant and having to go all the time I actually left a long boring conference call on mute and ran down the hall hoping no one would address me specifically. I made it thank goodness. As Annia wrote - yes moments to yourself, and "prioritize your panic" meaning get perspective -not everything is a crisis even though you're generally in adrenaline crisis mode. Yesterday I had a really huge deadline. i had to work with two staff members who are assistants to us. i really hate doing that -they are great and I am always concerned that my stress will show, that my tone will reflect stress or even impatience. And I feel like I'm walking on eggshells. So I told myself on the way to work -I am going to a "tea party" (meaning relax, slow down your voice) and the deadline will be met - maybe not perfectly but I wasn't going to sacrifice a good working relationship with staff or anyone.

    So in reality I was stressed with the number of questions from one staff member but I made myself respond every time in a thoughtful and appreciative way, offered to come to her office if that would be more helpful to her, etc. Also -let things go. I let it go that she didn't prepare certain things exactly as I would have liked because -big deal -why pick that battle and the increase the stress of getting it done? Often times I find when I am under stress my pickiness increases. Be as self aware as possible and know when you must step away, when you shouldn't reply to an email etc right then because you are feeling stressed. Etc.
    I have days I literally can't go to the toilet because people are depending on me, but now I go several times, even if people have to wait. It's my break and way to breath a little. I generally drink lot's of water at work.

    I need to self talk everyday saying "what's done is done" when I get home. Meaning that whatever problems I have to solve or whatever mistakes I might have made, I can only deal with it when return to work, so it's no use thinking about it home. There was one day that I thought I had made a very huge mistake but wasn't sure and I didn't work that weekend. So I spent all weekend sick to my stomach reviving every step I've made, trying to remember if I committed a mistake or not. It was awful and I could barely sleep or think about anything else. I had to say stop. Some things are beyond our control.

    I also have another problem which is that even though I'm getting much better at this on my personal life, I'm still a people pleaser at work. This makes it so that in my mind I need to be perfect and if I make a mistake a feel awful thinking that people think awful things about me or that I failed them. I remember one time when I was beginning here, I went home and cried just because a client screamed at me in front of my boss. I also used to feel awful when people called and be impatient because I needed to ask them to repeat because I couldn't understand everything at first. I even cried once (home of course) because I once filed some papers in the wrong place and it caused some stress trying to find them.

    I have to think rationally that no one will think less of me because we're all stressed and prone to mistakes and they know I work my butt off and that even though I'm in disavantage (I have to work 100% in a new language I only learned recently to come to this country), I'm pulling through and I'm even being trusted new responsibilities and teaching interns. It helps thinking about our accomplishments weather they might seem small. Make a list if necessary. Even if it's silly stuff like "today I sent these emails". Also realise that you're a piece of the puzzle that makes your work. You're part of the team. You're necessary.

    Take a deep breath. If like me you have to work fast, realise that even so there are limits. If people have to wait a couple more minutes so that you do a quality work and don't mess up, so be it. It's not the end of the world.

    At the end of the day, we can't let work consume all our lives and suck our joy. And if a job is taking years of our lives, we need to make a plan to change jobs if necessary. It's also detrimental as I said to have a life outside work.

    (now I need to follow more my own advice haha )

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    When the pressures of life weigh me down, I meditate/pray scriptures! Those related to peace, wisdom, strength and grace. I am currently experiencing a lot of responsibilities at work and doing this daily works for me. I also try to get as much sleep at night as I can, as this rejuvenates me for the next day. I would suggest reaching out to someone you trust to talk to when you are stressed. Whatever you decide to do, I pray it works out for you.

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