Facebook share
LinkedIn share
Google plus share
Twitter plus share
Give Advice
Ask For Advice
Results 1 to 10 of 10

Thread: I think this guy I知 talking to is bi :-/

  1. #1
    Member
    Join Date
    Jun 2017
    Posts
    56

    I think this guy I知 talking to is bi :-/

    So been
    Chatting to this guy and well
    I think he is bi. He hasn稚 said that he likes men in that way.
    But he said he has done things with men
    And has occocially gone to gay
    clubs 😑🤦🏻♀️ His been completely honest about this which is great but erm I知 abit like ahh



    He posts weird things on his Facebook
    wife material

    Then texts me saying
    I have concerns on my mind and don稚 know where I am in life

    Do you think I should avoid this guy?
    Maybe his confused what he wants?

  2. #2
    Platinum Member Wiseman2's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2016
    Location
    Cloud Nine
    Posts
    35,513
    Gender
    Male
    Avoid him if you are looking to date. He's not ready to date.
    Originally Posted by michkath
    Then texts me saying I have concerns on my mind and don稚 know where I am in life . Do you think I should avoid this guy?

  3. #3
    Platinum Member Clio's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2011
    Posts
    2,532
    Gender
    Female
    Imo yes you should avoid him. He doesn't know what he wants and it could be that he is struggling with his sexual orientation as well. Personally, I would not knowingly date someone who is bi. Too complicated, and too risky imo.

  4. #4
    Platinum Member Wiseman2's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2016
    Location
    Cloud Nine
    Posts
    35,513
    Gender
    Male
    Google the book "He's Just Not That Into You", it describes guys like this.

  5.  

  6. #5
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    Mar 2006
    Posts
    50,695
    I would not since he is a stranger to begin with -why bother. If you were set up through a friend who had vetted him, where you knew exactly what the deal was with his sexual preferences then, sure, why not meet.

  7. #6
    Platinum Member superfan's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2011
    Location
    Ontario, Canada
    Posts
    2,410
    Gender
    Female
    Love it when a thread like this pops up and the bi phobia comes out in force.

    It is not "more risky" to date someone who is bi unless you subscribe to the (completely inaccurate) stereotype that all bi people are sex crazed maniacs who will do it with anything that moves.

    Bisexual people are just like any other. They are not more likely to cheat, or become dissatisfied just because they are bi. I'm bi and happily married to a man.

    So if you're hesitant about dating a bi guy for that reason, maybe ask yourself why you have this misconception. Odds are it is an internal prejudice you didn't realize you had.

    That said, it sounds like he might not be sure he is ready for a relationship with anyone (which can happen whether you're bi or straight). If that's the case, then I would maybe hold off until he knows what he wants.

  8. #7
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    Mar 2006
    Posts
    50,695
    No -I was referring to what he wrote to her:

    He posts weird things on his Facebook
    wife material

    Then texts me saying
    I have concerns on my mind and don稚 know where I am in life"


    And it's perfectly appropriate not to want to date someone who dates both men and women -a preference like any other. Nothing to do with phobia. But in this case I would advise her not to meet him because he doesn't seem available for a potential relationship with anyone and he is a stranger so why take that on?

  9. #8
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    Posts
    24,258
    Gender
    Female
    Originally Posted by superfan
    Love it when a thread like this pops up and the bi phobia comes out in force.
    Sorry, its not about bi phobia its about having boundaries. I can be as picky as i want to be in screening men to potentially be the closest human being to me physically, emotionally, etc. If i don't want date a guy who is promiscuous with women, is bisexual, has face tattoos, is of a faith that is wildly incompatible with mine and so on and so forth -- i am absolutely allowed. There is no "fear" associated with it --- choosing a boyfriend is not like choosing friends or people for your Amway downline.

    If i want a monogamous relationship, I need to look elsewhere if someone in the early stages of texting back and forth that they have "done stuff with men" or even "i did stuff with women" for that matter. Its one thing if you are on date 22 and a man confides that he had sex with another man 20 years ago but has dated women monogamously since vs a guy who "leads" with it to either shock/tantalize/warn you - but its another if that's the "lead"

  10. #9
    Platinum Member Clio's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2011
    Posts
    2,532
    Gender
    Female
    Originally Posted by superfan
    Love it when a thread like this pops up and the bi phobia comes out in force.

    It is not "more risky" to date someone who is bi unless you subscribe to the (completely inaccurate) stereotype that all bi people are sex crazed maniacs who will do it with anything that moves.

    Bisexual people are just like any other. They are not more likely to cheat, or become dissatisfied just because they are bi. I'm bi and happily married to a man.

    So if you're hesitant about dating a bi guy for that reason, maybe ask yourself why you have this misconception. Odds are it is an internal prejudice you didn't realize you had.
    Imo, you are projecting your own fear/preconceptions here. Phobia no, a preference yes. Not because "all" are X=whatever. I have good friends that are bi and I have good friends who are gay. I do not think that they "all bi people are sex crazed maniacs" / more promiscuous. I do have a preconception that "some" bi men may be people in transition/ not settled on their sexuality and I would not knowingly want to invest on someone who may turn out to be gay. The guy in question did not sound "settled" whatever he may be.

    People may not want to date other people for all kinds of reasons/preferences: religion, age, appearance, having children, height, whatever. Basically what abitbroken wrote.
    Last edited by Clio; 02-15-2019 at 11:00 PM.

  11. #10
    Member
    Join Date
    Jun 2017
    Posts
    56
    I agree what a stupid comment
    To put !
    BI phobia haha !

    Nobody is talking about that! We池e talking about the person in question! If it痴 worth it or not!

  12. 02-17-2019, 09:59 PM


Give Advice
Ask For Advice

Tags for this Thread

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •