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    Originally Posted by reinventmyself
    She buys alternate rounds? It sounds like she is open to being fair, but I think comparing the cost of hers would be in poor taste.

    If it bothers you tell her. By no means is my opinion right. It's just my opinion.

    I am very fair minding and try to keep things equitable. I am often generous at times. but if you compared the cost of my drink to yours, I'd have problem with it.
    I think so too, except I don't think it will make a good impression if you mention this bothering you. You'd be better off steering dates in other directions. And if you go for drinks, have something to do afterwards so it's a nice drink or two and you're off again. Just my opinion.

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    Are you living on a tight budget or is it a matter of principle? If it's a matter of you having to live on a tight budget, you could explain the situation and suggest either going to cheaper venues or going Dutch on the venue(s) that you currently frequent. If on the other hand it's a matter of principle rather than income-related, again it would be better if you two found out sooner rather than later whether your views match on this subject...In that case, you could ask her what her views are on this subject and take it from there. There are many different views on this subject. I would not consider someone who has to live on a tight budget a skinflint in this scenario but I would find it unattractive if that person had no money problems and it was a matter of principle. I don't keep tabs like that unless I am on a tight budget (if ever) and I would prefer a like minded individual.
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    start ordering more expensive drinks than her and see if she still insists on alternating rounds.
    If she suddenly drops it - you know what this is about.

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    Instead of alternating rounds, keep a tab that you split after you order more food than her.

    Just kidding. If a few bucks difference per round harms you financially, then hanging in a bar isn't exactly prudent when you can find hundreds of cheaper and more interesting things to do.

    If you're that focused on drinking, why not take turns hosting one another with packaged goods and home cooked meals?

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    Originally Posted by Duffymoon62
    Been dating this woman for three months,all is good apart from this one issue.We regularly go out for drinks and buy alternate rounds which sounds good Howver her drink costs twice as much as mine.Am I being a skinflint if I bring this subject up,I dont want to ruin what we have.How do I approach thid issue if I was to mention it in conversation?
    I usually have a speech that goes something like this.

    "I don't believe chivalry and equality are mutually exclusive, and I like being generous. However, there are economic realities that limit my generosity. If we are going to continue dating we need to discuss how we collectively fund our dating."

    Her response will tell you everything you need to know.

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    Originally Posted by Sportster2005

    "I don't believe chivalry and equality are mutually exclusive, and I like being generous. However, there are economic realities that limit my generosity. If we are going to continue dating we need to discuss how we collectively fund our dating."
    Nice and diplomatic. I like it.

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    Why not do something other than going out for drinks. its cheaper to go out for pizza than it is to order rounds of drinks

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