Originally Posted by abitbroken
If she makes $10 an hour and he makes $75,000 per year, i can understand how after groceries, household cleaning supplies and other things for the home swiftly uses up her paycheck.
I guess my bigger concern is-- so you pick the groceries up because you do the cooking so you can select what you want to cook (which makes sense), but i doubt if your money and your wife's money is completely separate and i doubt if your wife pays the main bills, then ferrets the overage for herself while you have $10 leftover after you pay for food and entertainment and then she goes out and buys fur coats and diamond rings while you wear the same holey coat for 12 years. If one person is responsible for the groceries due to convenience (they are the one that cooks, their schedule better allows it), that's great, but they should have full say in the rest of the budget and know fully where all the money goes and make joint decisions on everything else.
My guy already had a house, car, etc, and didn't need extra income to make ends meet - he was very clear about the married situation - he is not expecting a wife to pay 50 percent. he was expecting that whatever she made would be bonus -- go into the same pot, i would be responsible to keep TRACK and pay bills he wasn't used to having that would be extra - but out of the join
t account) but he wasn't expecting a woman to make what he made, etc. Maybe even though she thinks otherwise, that this is the true situation and because she doesn't see where the rest of the money goes, it worries her.