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Thread: Lack of sex but partner watches porn!

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    Originally Posted by katrina1980
    Thnx MLD.

    I'm sorry what I wrote offends you Sherry or TMI, not my intention at all.

    Just sharing one of things my bf and I do to keep our sex life exciting. That's all.
    We give "this worked for me" examples on here all the time. No big deal.

    I am not into making videos that would be of interest on porn hub or such, but of interest to him as my bf and as a photographer. It isn't an objectification of us, it is an expression of our personal connecrion.

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    Still don't agree with you all.

    Agree to disagree.

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    Originally Posted by SherrySher
    Still don't agree with you all.

    Agree to disagree.
    Sherry, fwiw I do get your point.

    Some things are to be left private between the couple. Out of respect. Even on an anonymous forum.

    Which is why I would never go into explicit detail about the things we do sexually.

    Which no doubt would disrupt the sensibilities of some people! Lol. Even on a sex forum.

    And are private between us.

    But honestly I saw nothing wrong with posting that we make private videos or watch porn together.

    Agree to disagree and again I am sorry you found it TMI.
    Last edited by katrina1980; 02-08-2019 at 12:49 PM.

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    Some things are to be left private between the couple. Out of respect. Even on an anonymous forum.
    This was basically my thoughts, yes.

    I just thought it made more sense to suggest to the OP that possibly she could spice things up with making her own sex videos, rather than to start talking about your own sex videos.

    But no worries. Thanks for seeing both side, Kat. Much appreciated.

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    Soooo back to the OP problem...

    If he is to tired at the end of the day then wake him up early with some gentle touching and kissing and see what happens. Pretty good way to start a day right?

    This isn't about you so don't go there and to much porn can be a problem. There are so many threads on this forum from a woman just like you wondering why it started off great but then her bf/husband gets himself off 4-5 times a week but won't touch her.

    There is a certain amount of fantasy and a certain amount of selfishness and yes even laziness in getting off to porn instead of focusing on your partner. He doesn't have to worry about pleasing you, he can get himself off and get one with whatever and he simply doesn't have to put in much effort.

    Personally I don't get it, a real life woman is a million times better than porn, she is real, porn is not.

    Try the morning thing and see how it goes, at least if you do it in the morning he won't have time to wear himself out to porn!

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    I agree with jman. If youíre having sex 1-2x per week, I think your bf is doing his part. I like how jman worded it too. Sometimes you just want to get your own without having to worry about getting someone elseís too.

    I donít think your boyfriends behavior is anything to make an issue over. However, if you are truly not satisfied and cannot compromise at just 1-2x a week, youíll have to talk to him. But donít approach this as being his fault or his issue. Itís a need that you have that youíre asking him to meet, for you. Be grateful for the increased effort if he makes it, not mad that he hasnít already been making the effort.

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    Originally Posted by katrina1980
    This seems pretty typical after two years imo.

    But if you want to kick it up a notch switch your routine of watching tv every night and overall same ole/same ole.

    Take up a new hobby or take a class that gets you out of the house for a couple of nights a week.

    Let him miss you!

    It sounds a bit like you guys are stuck in a rut, which leads to boredom, which leads to him (and/or you) seeking excitement elsewhere (ie. Porn).

    What I have learned is some men need a bit of distance to maintain their strong attraction and connection.

    It's a challenge when living together or married but can be done and can work wonders on a relationship that's become routine/meh.

    Also, how about watching porn together? My bf and I do! Even the hard core stuff!

    It's exciting to do that together and can really spice things up! My bf is a photographer and we've even made our own private videos together!
    We're actually together 5 yrs just living together 2 yrs, we have watched porn together before might try it again we made s video years ago but I cringed watching it!

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    I'm still very sexually attracted to him, we used to have alot more kinky sex too now it's mainly vanilla sex, I'm not even sure how to get back to how we used to be as he seems happy stuck in a rut.

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    He does like to take control but I wouldn't say he does all the work!

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    *On edit* As I see we are back onto your thread, Samgirl. :0)
    I think twice a week after the honeymoon period is over and the new relationship energy wanes is a pretty good sex life.

    Stop looking at his computer history (he may just be looking and not masturbating for all you know) and just enjoy yourself when you're both ready. If he was completely neglecting you to masturbate then I would say you have a problem. Do you have your own alone time as filler between bouts of couples sex?

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