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    Originally Posted by Jibralta
    Oh big deal. So you sent a nice message to somebody. Queue the scream. I'm sure she isn't going to kill herself over it, and you can't be held criminally responsible. We should have more gestures of kindness in this world. Kudos to you.
    Yes, nice if its your boyfriend or husband sending it to you after a big fight. Not some needy cling bomb after one date after you already blocked him.

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    Originally Posted by ManyDates
    Yes, nice if its your boyfriend or husband sending it to you after a big fight. Not some needy cling bomb after one date after you already blocked him.
    Yep.

    Dobbler vs Dahmer

    Itís a real thing.

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    I'm going to give you the exact same advice I would be giving to a woman, because this is no different.

    If you want an actual relationship, don't jump into bed.

    No, you don't know this person. If you chatted for 2 weeks, that means little to nothing as people can lie and pretend. On a first date you need to concentrate on romance and connecting and actually building a friendship so it can build into an actual relationship.

    If you have sex right away, there is nothing left to look forward to, no mystery left, no nothing.

    Nevermind the fact that she could be the type that just wanted to use you for sex and is onto the next guy. Which is why you really ought to have an STD test.
    You have no idea what kind of STD's she could be potentially carrying.

    If you want a woman to take you seriously and to want to see you again, don't throw everything all on the table and then be shocked when she doesn't want to come back.

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    Originally Posted by ManyDates
    needy cling bomb
    Oh lord. What drama. Let it go. I'm sure she's not as upset over this as some of the people on this thread!

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    That's fine. Now let it blow over and look forward, not back.
    Originally Posted by richdeniro
    I guess I can't take it back now though.

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    Originally Posted by Jibralta
    Oh lord. What drama. Let it go. I'm sure she's not as upset over this as some of the people on this thread!
    Figure whatever is going on with you and your BF out, don't tell him to do what you wish your BF would do to you. Projectionist "advice" isn't.

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    I have to say, I am really surprised on the advice given to a woman in this situation as compared to a man.

    A woman would be told to not sleep around this quickly, a man is congratulated.

    A woman would be told that he used her for sex and he's not coming back. A man is being given reasons as to why she might be hurt due to a former partner and that's why she's not wanting to continue.

    This guy jumped into bed with a virtual stranger. You can't take it for granted that someone you've chatted with for 2 weeks is even being straight with you, which is why you don't have sex with them within hours of meeting. It's a recipe for disaster.

    There is a very small percentage that anything good will occur with having sex right away. It gives the impression that you're an easy lay and not one to be taken seriously.
    9 times out of 10 you will only get either a one nighter or fling out of allowing yourself to get into bed with a stranger this fast.

    And who knows, this woman could have sleeping with more than one guy and is not the cleanest woman. Which is why I remind you, OP, to get an STD test done.

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    I don't think she ever intended on contacting you again after the one nighter. I think she was bored, lonely, missing someone and she used you for the night.

    You sending a message on another phone after she had blocked you, was creepy.

    However, I doubt she cares. You are no doubt one of a few men that have been involved with her recently.

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    Originally Posted by ManyDates
    Figure whatever is going on with you and your BF out, don't tell him to do what you wish your BF would do to you. Projectionist "advice" isn't.
    I can't understand what you are trying to say.

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