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    Originally Posted by boltnrun
    The "chick" might be talking to her ex. Or maybe she heard you refer to her as a "chick".
    Maybe you should try dating women instead of poultry? Chickens tend to spook easily.

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    Very constructive and helpful.

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    Originally Posted by GTrean1956
    Very constructive and helpful.
    Fair enough, let me add this then... when you refer to the woman you have been seeing for 3 months as a "chick" it comes across as though you don't view her respectfully or equally. This may give some indication as to why she is pulling away from you if she is sensing this as well.

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    That's a better response :)

    I only referred to her as a 'chick' to try and make the thread a little light~hearted. My bad. For what it's worth, I think she's a special woman who deserves a lot of credit for bringing up kids and holding down a job. I think an awful lot of her, have only treated her with respect, hence why I'm so baffled things have changed as they have...

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    i don't think all these things are happenign due to a word like "chick". If that's going on thre was nothign there to begin with lol.
    I get that it's not the most endearing, fluffy, goosebump inducing nickname for a female signicant other- but let's get real. Nobody breaks up with a guy they truly love because he says "chick". They may not be happy, but they aren't going to suddenly leave the man of their dreams over the word "chick".

    As far as not speaking for 48 hrs.. that's nothing. Nothing signicant to judge over. I think you're expecting a bit too much there. If she hasnpt spoken to you in a MONTH - than that's something. Even 2 weeks can be justified and explainable in the right situations.

    So in the end... since you are not "serious" and she's not making a point to make this a part of her life, you need to look at options and let her come back to you to show you she wants something with you and that you're important to her. That's it.

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    Making a change from being a single mom with kids, to now including a partner, is a huge change.

    You've already stated that she has mental issues and anxiety over change. This is a huge change for her and maybe things got too rushed.
    That would cause anyone to back away.

    It sounds like she needs time to digest everything and to get used to having someone in her life.

    As long as you trust her and don't feel that she's seeing another man, then just assume everything is okay but give her some space.
    If it's only about her getting used to everything, all she needs is a bit more time.

    If you're really concerned, it would be better to just ask her rather than to guess.

    ps: As for chick, it is demeaning and to be honest, makes you sound chav. Best to just leave those kinds of words behind when mentioning a woman.

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    Why would any decent single mother have "men staying over" after dating only 12 weeks and apparently a lot of turbulence already in this situation? Do you live with roommates/your parents? Why weren't plans made such as perhaps her getting a babysitter or on noncustodial days staying at your place? Unfortunately it sounds like you have too many incompatibilities and very different values and lifestyles. Maybe it's time to cut your losses and date women without children.
    Originally Posted by GTrean1956
    can't have men staying over.

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