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    This is too much, too fast. I didn't meet my ex's friends until the two-month mark.

    DO NOT unfriend any friend for a girlfriend. Period! What are you thinking? I think you should consider not dating for a awhile.

    Go get your stuff, then lose the lunatic gf.

    Next time, slow your roll.

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    You do not "need" to unfriend anyone.

    There is another woman out there—plenty—who will not be affected by this. In fact, she will be comforted by the fact that you had an amicable breakup, that you are on good terms. She'll see that as a sign of your maturity and capacity for compassion, not as some threat.

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    The point of dating is to get to know the person and see what issues they have. If you don't want to be with a hyper insecure, controlling, jealous woman who will dictate to you who you can and cannot talk to, who you can and cannot be friends with, then I think the answer is quite obvious - dump her today. It's barely been a month and already too much drama. No big loss here and I'd hope that you don't already have some major attachment to her.

    This is a toxic beginning and so no need to carry on, unless you actually enjoy this kind of drama, lying, sneaking around, fighting, etc, etc, etc.

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    I won't be unfriending anyone. Sorry, that was meant to be a rhetorical 'how would this even work'

    Yes I think we moved too quickly. I guess I had heard someplace that if you click, you know, and invited her to a get together in Brissy. I think moving to a big city will be beneficial and will take some time to digest this prior to starting dating again.

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    Everything falls into place when you meet the right person. You will see more positive then their quirks, let’s face it everyone has quirks. However, their quirks won’t be of any manipulative element, such as obsessive jealousy or controlling.

    The person you meet that clicks will lift you up, inspire you to be better, and be very supportive and have no selfish motive.


    She’s out there just don’t settle for anything less.

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    Cut your losses if it's going this bad after only dating 4 weeks. The dating period when you see things like this and decide if you want to date further.
    Originally Posted by Aussieguy1
    I know I shouldn't have lied, but I could sense the new gf was jealous and worried. It was a mistake. But this demand seems unreasonable and immature. I was looking forward to my new relationship, but if this is how it started maybe it's time to move on.

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    Thanks everyone for the advice. I definitely didn't think this was normal and I do feel terrible about the fact I had to hide that I may speak to my ex, before and after, to avoid the jealousy issues.

    I guess my ski trip to New Zealand will be just as fun by myself :) minus the cost of her plane ticket..

    For fun, here's the event... 150 boxing kangaroos attending the cricket. Pretty formal occasion. I'm selfie-ing it up with a mate.

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    Wanting to prevent partners from talking to friends is unacceptable, specially one month in. Is this a prison or a relationship? If she's already showing the "crazy" at one month in, in which people are usually still at their best behaviour, then multiply it by 10 when she gets more comfortable after a while.

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    Look, I can understand you both a bit. It‘s pissing you off that she‘s so jealous because that would mean that she‘s not trusting you. From her side, you gave her a point to not trust you, because you lied and she had to see those pictures together with your ex. But the real problem she has is a very low self-esteem I think. I know what I‘m talking about because I had that problem, too. Having a low self-esteem is nothing to be ashamed of, it‘s nothing bad. But it‘s going to tear you down if you don‘t try to fix it. So I think the best you can do is to try helping her out and fixing that problem. Tell her how you feel for her and that you don‘t want to lose her. But that you remarked her problem and that she needs to fix it to prevent other problems.

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    Wanting to prevent partners from talking to friends is unacceptable, specially one month in. Is this a prison or a relationship? If she's already showing the "crazy" at one month in, in which people are usually still at their best behaviour, then multiply it by 10 when she gets more comfortable after a while.
    Read this 10 times in the event that you ever have doubt.

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